Why You Can’t Give Up Now

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Never allow what you’re going through to deter you from what God told you to do. One way that I remain encouraged is by studying the Word of God. If I listened to what others have said about me or allowed my mistakes to define me I would remain stuck and in bondage.

However, I choose to gain strength through my relationship with Christ and allow His word to reveal itself in my life. I encourage you to do the same. I know life happens and it gets tough but you are a lot tougher than you realize.

Where you are is not where you will always be and you must believe that and accept it as your truth. God has great plans for your life but you have to make a decision to trust and believe in Him and allow Him to direct your path.

For years I allowed my pain to lead me; but no more! I am now driven by the love of God and I trust His thoughts toward me. I encourage you to do the same.

You can not remain stuck where you are, too many are relying on your freedom to experience their’s God uses people and I encourage you to let Him use you to help someone else!

Scripture References: Proverbs 3:5-6|Isaiah 26:3|Jeremiah 17:7-8

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How I Overcame the Spirit of Offense & You Can Too

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In life there will come a time that something someone says (or doesn’t say) or do (or don’t do) will come across as offensive to you in regards to your standard or expectation of what you felt should have occurred in each specific incident.

Offense is defined as an annoyance or resentment brought about by a perceived insult to or disregard for oneself or one’s standards or principles.

After much evaluation and self-reflection I admit that I wasted much of my life mad at people who had no idea I was upset, or even confronting people who were clueless to my approach when sharing what they did that offended me.

In most cases I learned it was simply a matter of maturity. Sure, there will be things people will say or do that will rub us the wrong way but we can choose whether to overlook it or determine if it is serious enough to address.

In speaking of the spirit of offense, I like you have been on both sides of the spectrum. I’ve disconnected from people who I felt did not value me enough to change their behavior in relation how I felt they were or were not treating me. I also have had individuals who became offended if I did not reply to their text message or message they may have sent me on social media as quickly as they would have liked me to.

I know this sounds petty but so is the spirit of offense. Here is the number one thing that set me free: PEOPLE ARE PEOPLE. People are going to be people. People are going to mess up. People are going to disappoint; some intentionally and others unintentionally but either way at one time or another friction is going to occur.

My evaluation of this is that it isn’t about what others do or don’t do that’s the most important. What matters the most is how we choose to handle the situation before it leads to an offense or even further a fall out with a family or friend.

Here’s How I Overcame and You Can Too: 

  1. Understand we all are flawed.
  2. Be patient with people while sharing your expectation
  3. Never try to control people.
  4. Place people in the proper position. Perhaps you are trying to make someone a friend who does not possess the necessary qualities. Or trying to make someone a mate who simply can not bring to the table what you desire of them.
  5. Take everything to the Lord in prayer.
  6. Weigh the situation on the peace scale. Do you have peace about going to the person? Is it really that big of a deal? Or does it continue to reoccur and bother you and you feel disrespected.
  7. Learn to observe more than you speak. People will always show us exactly who they are and what they are capable of if we will pay attention.
  8. Ask God to purge your heart and strengthen you so that everything doesn’t bother you.
  9. Don’t keep it bottled up. Journal it and only have necessary conversations with those who matter the most. The girl who accidentally bumped you in the mall isn’t important enough for you to lose your cool publicly. However, someone whom you continue to bump heads with in business may be of importance for you to have a conversation.
  10. Learn how to communicate effectively- Often times we talk while failing to communicate. Listen closely with the intention to understand rather than to respond. Then choose your words wisely and avoid beginning conversations with “You.” Instead try “When you do ______, it makes me feel ___________.”

In following the above steps the spirit of offense will have no space in your life.

 

 

 

 

~Relationships 101 ~

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Today while at my desk working I began to reflect over previous friendships, partnerships and relationships in general. There have been some people that I’ve had to walk away from and some that have walked away from me.

In thinking of this I learned that we are the only ones who can determine who we allow into our intimate space and who we must re-position to the balcony. There have been some that were once in my inner circle that I had cut off due to immaturity and really not knowing how to face challenges in life therefore, instead of dealing with the issues I would run away from them instead. There have also been some that I disconnected from due to finally realizing some things and coming to terms with the fact that the relationship no longer served me.

There were some connections in which individuals have disconnected from me due to misunderstandings or whatever was considered a nonnegotiable in their life.

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Lastly, there have also been times when I have allowed people to stay in my life much longer than they should and I paid for it in the end.

The point I am trying to make is in everything you do give it your absolute best. Whether it be friendships, professional relationships and partnerships or dating relationships as well. Give it all you got! Don’t allow fear of them walking away or previous failures hold you captive from experiencing true love and the advantages the right partnerships can bring.

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Life has many things to teach us on a consistent basis if we would lend it our ear and listen with our soul rather than our heart. You see, your soul is where your mind, will and emotions live. The depths of who you and I are is found in how we think, operate and allow things to affect us.

Following your heart can oftentimes be misleading and will send you down paths you never intended to take. Be prayerful and cautious, not fearful and suspicious. It’s perfectly okay to guard your space and determine who you will allow to come in and who needs to exit stage left.

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No matter your decision remember you can’t make it in this life alone. Face your issues, as well as your fears, love people and give them permission to fail and make mistakes. The number one problem in relationships is we fail to communicate effectively. Sure, we are talking but are we speaking in a language that is foreign to the listener? Are we so concerned and wrapped up in our own needs that we neglect the needs of the person we are trying to convey a message to?

Search within and really evaluate your friendships, relationships and partnerships that have gone wrong. Then, accept the truth of whatever the common factors are and commit to becoming better in the necessary areas. Even people who walk away from us without a cause can teach us a lesson.

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Be sure to keep people in their proper places. Don’t lean too much on another human more than you do God. He’s jealous and He will shut it down if that’s what it takes to get your attention.

No matter how close we may walk with Holy Spirit we will all be disappointed in life, hurt people as well as be hurt by them. The growing factor is to learn how to shift and learn from things that have happened and refuse to allow your heart to turn cold toward others due to previous pains you have caused others as well as what they have caused you.

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Walk in love today, and remember to give your best to your friend, partner, family and loved ones while pouring your heart into all you do and trust God to protect you as you serve and allow others to serve you!

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How I Fired My Boss By the Age of 30 & YOU CAN TOO!

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Never in a million years would I have dreamed that I would be where I am today. You are reading the blog of a woman that many counted out; heck; I even counted myself out! You ever have so many people speaking against you to the point you start believing what they are saying about you?

Out of my mother’s two children, I was her problem child. I was always fighting, running away from home, stealing, partying, drinking, smoking; pretty much doing anything I thought I was big and bad enough to do. I also ended up pregnant at the age of 17 and should honestly have had AIDS by now due to the reckless life I was once living but by the grace of God I am still standing; alive, healthy and disease free (PRAISE BREAK)

I honestly didn’t care about my life. I was super disrespectful to my mom, was angry with my inconsistent Dad while spending much of my time trying to find him in the older guys I seemed to attract. One thing I’ve learned is that men can detect/smell a desperate, lonely and broken woman. But hey that’s an entire different blog I’ll have to write on a different day!

What does all of this have to do with me firing my boss by the age of 30? It was because of the things I had gone through that stirred up such a passion and desire to encourage others. It was out of my discouragement that I began to write a newsletter to empower others. Not knowing that newsletter would develop into a magazine which would evolve into a movement including me hosting annual conferences with women literally traveling all across the globe to attend.

Mind blowing right? It gets better…

None of this was intentional for me. I started with a fervent love for God and people and He did the rest. I know business experts want to focus on how to make money and all that but I say the reason why I am successful today is because money was the last of my focus. I was not focused on monetizing my message. I was focused on getting a message of hope out to the masses that later developed into books, training programs/courses, live and virtual events, my own consulting firm and publishing company.

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Holding my 1st book released in 2013: The Power in Waiting. Click here to grab your copy:
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In 2013 I wrote a book sharing a portion of my life and titled it, “The Power in Waiting: What Do You Do When What God SAID Doesn’t Line Up With What You See?” Within 24 hours this book (pictured above) became an international best seller and also led me to being recognized on the National Best Seller List for Black Christian Authors. I found myself in the same category as one of my favorite authors, Valorie Burton (Author of Successful Women Think Differently- one of my favs; you should definitely grab this book.)

Anyway, after publishing this book one thing led to another and then BAM I began to write more books but my passion began to evolve as I saw myself evolve personally as a woman who loves Jesus into a woman who became passionate about entrepreneurship. Which honestly shouldn’t be a surprise, my mom has ran and operated her own boutique for over 20 years.

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What next? I wrote another book and it became an international best seller! I wrote another one after that and it became an international best seller! And another one..and you get my point. BUT…guess what? All of this did not come without the following:

  1. Focus
  2. Dedication
  3. Clarity
  4. Resilience
  5. Commitment

What I didn’t share is that I spent 4 years building my business while working my 9 to 5. By the time I left my job I had already tripled my income BUT I left with only $250 in the bank. HOW? Because as soon as the money was  coming in I was spending it right back out on websites, hard copies of my magazine, flyers; etc. I was very particular about my brand and I spend a fortune developing it (yes it was worth it)

Now, here’s the good stuff. HOW DID I FIRE MY BOSS BY THE AGE OF 30.

By doing the following:

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  1. I was FOCUSED- I knew what I wanted and I worked hard to get it by any means necessary (legally both in the earth and Heaven- haha- seriously) I was a coach before I knew what coaching was. I was helping people strategize before I knew what a Breakthrough Strategist was. I simply did what came natural to me. I didn’t chase money, or what was popular. I did what was in my heart to do: help people.I coached clients on my lunch break.I conducted interviews with some of the leading influencers in the Gospel industry while on my lunch break; sitting in my car. (Such as Kiarra Sheard, Valorie Burton, Dr. Traci Lynn, Shirley Murdock, Sarah Jakes Roberts, Tasha Cobbs & more!)I did not make any excuses. I stopped listening to what folks in my neighborhood told me I couldn’t do and started focusing on what God had put in my heart to do! I drowned out the naysayers and became laser focused on what had now become my KINGDOM ASSIGNMENT which led to my birthing as a KINGDOM ENTREPRENEUR!
  2. I was DEDICATED– Instead of going to lunch with my gossiping co-workers I went to my car and did research on how to expand my brand and develop client attraction. I coached clients on my lunch break and responded to emails. If you are going to be successful in anything you must first be dedicated. Success takes time.
  3. I operated with CLARITY- Although I had no intention on learning how to establish a multi-million dollar company (in which I am my way to doing) I had clarity on what I was to be doing at that very moment. Often times we can focus so much on the future that we miss the opportunity to live in the moment and enjoy today. I remember reading a book by Joyce Meyer (another one of my favs & inspiration): Enjoying Where You Are While On the Way to Where You’re Going and within the pages of this book I learned that life isn’t about the destination but the journey.
  4. I was RESILIENT: A resilient man or woman is a dangerous individual because they have a predetermined mindset that nothing or no one will ever stop them. Despite my haters and naysayers I made a decision to keep pressing forward. I refused to allow my past or even current struggles to define me. As I experience turbulence I refused to quit. I studied the eagle and learned how it used the storm to lift it higher into the sky and it flew above it. I thought that was amazing. That’s what we have to do in the midst of pursuing purpose and our dream; allow the storms that rage in our lives to lift us higher. Never allow your storm to cause you to quit. It was designed to bring out the best in you; the best that you never realized was there that only the storm could have birthed. Once you learn how storms work for your benefit if you remain resilient you will become more thankful for them.
  5. I was COMMITTED to finishing what I had started. Nothing about entrepreneurship is convenient. There is never the right time to leave your job, or buy a house or new car because you never know what each day will bring. Your phone could be ringing off the hook and your email and Pay Pal blowing up one day or one week and complete silence take place the next week. In order to fire your boss and live the life of your dreams you must be committed and learn to marry the process. As long as there is breath in our bodies we will always be in the process of becoming. The day our purpose is fulfilled in the earth is the day we will breathe our last breathe. Be committed to doing what God has placed in your hands to do or better yet what you say you desire or feel called to do.

There is so much more I could share but I’ll leave these 5 principles with you and as you focus on them and begin to master them I’ll return to share 5 more principles with you more so in the area of business and what it takes to develop and maintain a profitable business.

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5 Ways to Dream with Your Eyes Wide Open

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One of the keys to successful living is to be purposeful, intentional and focused on what it is you say you truly want.

In a current virtual training entitled, 13 Days of Power I share 5 Ways to Dream with Your Eyes Wide Open. So many are finding themselves living depressed and unfulfilled lives but I am a fervent believer that we have more control than we give ourselves credit for.

Sure, we may not be able to control what happens to us but we can partake and be responsible for what happens in us. In the midst of hurt we can choose not to be offended. In the midst of divorce/transition we can choose not to be bitter. In the midst of a job layoff we can choose not to be depressed but instead tap into a new level of creativity and turn the current obstacle into an opportunity.

Below are 5 ways you can position yourself to live the life of your dreams:

1. Surround yourself with people who are where you desire to be- Instead of being intimidated be inspired.

2. Change your routine- Study what successful people do: Wake up early, workout, be strategic, guard your time

3. Revisit your vision often- This will keep you motivated, inspired & activated (as well as moving forward)

4. Get a mentor- It is impossible to change your life without a spiritual midwife

5. Create declarations for where you desire to be-Write them in present tense and read them aloud daily.

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3 Things to Leave Behind in July

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Today marks the last day of July and as we prepare to enter into this next month/chapter of our lives I want to share with you some things to leave behind in July:

1. Any disappointments that took place this month- LET IT GO! Whatever has happened accept it and move on! This includes things that happened and people it may have involved.

2. Previous successes– One reason many remain stuck in the past is by focusing on what they previously accomplished. Sure, you may have accomplished some great things in July and prayerfully you have celebrated them. But now it’s time to embrace the next challenge and take the momentum with you from your previous win into your next battle.

3. Any failures– So what you failed, that does not make you a failure. Whatsoever has taken place know that there was a lesson in it and the sooner you grab a hold of the lesson the sooner you can pass this particular test.

These are the 3 things I want you to focus on leaving behind in the month of July. Now, I encourage you to prophesy the outcome of the month of August (and practice doing this for each month of your life)

Your prophesy may sound something like this:

The month of August will be a month of un-explainable favor for me! I will meet my financial goal this month by implementing the strategies revealed to me in prayer.

I will focus on ________. I will accomplish________. 

Practice doing this every month of your life. So often we focus on New Year’s Resolutions and the overall vision for our lives rather than prophesying what each month will look like then taking steps toward making those prophesies a reality.

For example, you can’t say this is the month God is going to release un-explainable favor to me and yet you walk around like you have been sucking on lemons. You must show yourself friendly.

You can’t declare, This is the month I will meet my financial goal yet you are lazy and fail to put in the work to make this prophesy your reality.

It is my mission to bring you closer to Christ in every message I write for He longs to commune with each of us. No longer do you have to chase a prophesy when God’s word is filled with many promises we can use and declare over our lives daily. It’s time out for believing it for everyone else yet doubting God’s word when it comes to your life.

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5 Things You Need to Live the Life of Your Dreams

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Do you currently find yourself living a life that you know is completely beneath your current capabilities?

Do you find yourself addicted to mediocrity rather than extraordinary living?

Are you ready to think and grow bigger?

As a Kingdom Entrepreneur for the past six years I didn’t always play big or think big. I used to self-sabotage a lot, make excuses or even shy away from large platforms. But the more my confidence grew the more I evolved and became comfortable in my own skin.

Many desire to be successful which requires one to take the stairs and not the elevator. You can not copy people’s content because you notice they gain a lot of traction and think it will work for you. I have witnessed this so much in the industry of coaching, publishing and speaking.

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(Speaking at my annual Women of Standard Experience in North Carolina)

You have a unique voice and gift to share with the world and in order to be effective you must

a.) Establish your own voice
b.) Deny the copy-cat syndrome
c.) Be willing to DO THE WORK!

Your brand/business will excel the moment you make a cognizant decision to BE YOU! Many fall into the trap of becoming who others desire them to be but that will cause you to become a fraud and hypocrite.

Here are a few keys to finding your own voice:

a.) Identify things and topics that you are passionate about
b.) Develop an audience who share these interests with you
c.) Identify a problem your target audience is having.
d.) Solve the problem through a product or service you provide
e.) Incorporate your personal story in your brand

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(Signing books at one of my live events in North Carolina)

Now that we have that out of the way there are 5 things I want to share that will help you live the life of your dreams:

1. Good Health- Taking care of yourself is a must. Many fail to add themselves to their calendar and have a tendency to put others before themselves. I know we are taught to do this. But if your body breaks down due to improper diet, lack of rest, or unresolved issues that lead to spiritual, physical, mental and even emotional depletion then what good are you to others?

2. Dedication– Marry the vision- no more one night stands with your vision and goals, but you must be committed to see what you desire to fruition and perhaps tweak your message, delivery or method while remaining true to who you are at the CORE.

3. Focus- Follow one course until successful. In my book, The Entrepreneur Blueprint I share this formula: Divided focus= NO focus. Let that set in.

4. Strategy- Ideas + Strategy = SUCCESS You can have a great idea but if you lack strategy and proper timing your effort will not be successful. Many do not lack talent, potential or drive but what is lacking is strategy. This is what separates US from THEM. US being Kingdom Entrepreneurs and THEM being worldy entrepreneurs who are only in their line of work for personal gain. Sadly WEs are winning because we carry the bread and butter (anointing + gifting) lack the key thing that is needed to be successful in any industry you may be in.

5. Resilience- Never Ever Give Up! In order to live the life of your dreams you must be willing to never quit. Now, I am not saying become a “hustler” and join the “no sleep/hustle hard” team. But I am saying is you must tap into your inner strength knowing that you have what it takes to be successful and keep pressing until you see manifested in the earth what God showed you in the spirit.

Remember skill alone is never enough!

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Overcoming the “IF” Factor

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Have you ever found yourself thinking: I’d be happy when ____________or if ____________?  I too have found myself in this place.

I have said things aloud such as, Whoo! I can’t wait until the Summer” (like experiencing the Fall isn’t a blessing.) Or “My goodness it’s hot out here, I can’t wait until the Fall!”

No seriously….
I’ve even had real conversations with myself such as, “I’d be happier if I were married.” Or “I’d be happier once I left my 9 to 5.” One thing I’ve learned about life is our inner peace should not be determined by outside circumstances. What lies within you is far greater than anything that could ever happen around you.

Here are 5 steps to overcoming the “IF” Factor:

  1. Be grateful for your NOW!
  2. Embrace what God has for YOU!
  3. Develop a pre-determined mindset of intentional living!
  4. Look at others long enough to be inspired but turn away when tempted to covet
  5. Live life abundantly!

Following the above steps will position you to living a life of “WHAT NEXT GOD!?” Rather than “WHAT IF?” The first one operates in faith & the other is led by fear. Which will you choose? You have what it takes to overcome the IF factor! Live in your NOW & begin to thank God for His many blessings and name them one by one!

How to Know Who’s Voice is Assigned to YOU

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In a world where so many people have a platform, microphone, books, opinion, title and a calling how do you know who’s voice is assigned to you?

The simplest and less complicated way I can share this is to emphasize the scripture: John 10:27 that says, “My sheep know my voice, and I hear them and they follow me.” When a voice is assigned to you their message will be congruent with the Word of God for your life.

Meaning when they speak your baby will leap (spiritually; read Luke 1:41 for a deeper revelation) as a sign of agreement and this is what happens when purpose meets destiny. Often times when people follow me on social media I am often reading comments that say, “My pastor just preached this!” or “My girlfriend and I were just talking about this!”

When a voice is assigned to your life and your particular season there will be a spirit of agreement in your spirit. Now agreement doesn’t mean you will be comfortable. We all need to be connected to people who challenge and provoke us to change, show up bigger and dig deeper as we continue to passionately pursue purpose.

However, there is a severe danger in following the wrong voices. Many people that listen to my “Making BOSS Moves” broadcast when I am sharing about book writing and launching your business and pursuing your God given dreams while being a Kingdom Entrepreneur, those who tune in repeatedly are those who feel my voice is assigned to them because they:

a. Have already been feeling the unction or desire to write a book

b. Currently sense there is more to life than what they are currently doing.

c. Currently in pursuit of these things and may find themselves stuck.

Always look for confirmation when you are listening to people whether on social media, attending events and even in your personal relationships. Listening to too many voices can drown out and deter you away from the voice of God.

Simply put I encourage you to pray about the people you “follow” on social media, church services, conferences and even workshops you attend because the wrong word in the wrong season can destroy your life BUT the right word in the right season can change the very trajectory of your life and thrust you deeper into purpose!

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How to Develop a Positive Self Image

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How to Develop a Positive Self Image: Steps to Rebuilding After You’ve Been Torn Down
In order to operate successfully as a BOSS one must possess a positive self image. How we think of and view ourselves is usually embedded into us via our childhood. Whether it was your father who validated you, or failed to do so; your mother who protected you,or failed to do so; a teacher who saw the best in you and encouraged you to dig deeper; or failed to do so; etc. Each of these interactions helped shape our mentality (how we view ourselves) as well as our individuality (what sets us a part from others)
Perhaps you were like me in which you had teachers who doubted you and declared over your life that you would never be anything. Or maybe you had family members who doubted you or counted you out because of your issues. Or loved ones you violated you instead of protecting you. Been there? I have too.
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But the great news is it’s never too late to overcome even our deepest childhood hurts and lingering wounds.
I want to ask you the following questions and I want you to be honest with yourself:
1. How do you view yourself? -Do you see yourself through the lenses of others and your past or the lenses of God’s word in regards to your future?
2. What do you say about you? – When you fail at a particular task or activity do you then label yourself as a failure?
3. How do you care for YOU? – Do you care for your temple by monitoring what you eat, watch and who you surround yourself with?
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Repeat this after me and fill in the blank:
– I forgive _________ for doing ___________ to me. – Now is the time to release those who have held you captive due to you not releasing them wholeheartedly.
– I forgive myself for ___________________.- We all make mistakes and now is the time to forgive yourself and stop holding yourself hostage due to previous mistakes.
-I give myself permission to __________________. – Greatness is within you! It simply needs to be UNLOCKED, UNLEASHED & ACTIVATED! Guess what? You have the keys! Utilize them!
– I will passionately pursue my dream of becoming a __________________. -Life is full of possibilities and endless opportunities make a decision today to get out of your own way and passionately pursue purpose.
After you have went through the above self-coaching activity I’d like to leave you with a few things:
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Steps to Develop a Positive Self Image:
1. Refuse to accept what was spoken over you. – You are NOT who they say you are but who God says you are! Embrace it and accept it as your reality.
2. Renounce all negative words- Detox your mind and spirit of every negative emotion. Journal it out if you have to; as long as you release it.
3. Declare Gods truth over your life despite your reality – God’s word is the final authority for your life.
4. Recondition your mind- Do this by reading books that will restore your spirit. Start with the Word of God and then inspirational books that provide strategies to restore your self esteem and increase your confidence. Your true identity is found in Christ, not in the opinions of others.
5. Develop a healthy attitude about yourself which will be a contributing factor to how u view and relate to others.- How you feel about yourself is a reflection of how you treat others. Remember this.
6. Be strategic & intentional about WHO you spend your time with.- Who speaks over you has access to your soul. Soul= mind will and emotions. What we hear effects how we feel and how we feel influence what we do and say.
Doing the above will make you confident in your call, clarify your identity and teach you the necessity of celebrating others.
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