The Power of Hitting Rock Bottom

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I never thought I would be living the current life I live. Four years ago I worked in Corporate America, unhappy with my life and was barely making ends meet. Two years prior to that my daughter and I experienced homelessness and had to go and live with a complete stranger while I took two months to get my stuff together.

It took me hitting rock bottom to make a decision to never allow myself or my daughter to get this low ever again! That was 6 years ago and since then I have transitioned off my 9 to 5 which within 6 months of leaving I tripled my income by simply pursuing my passion: talking. LOL

I have always been the type to never meet a stranger and could spark up a conversation with a dog if he could talk back!

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(Pictured with Celebrity Stylist J. Bolin in PA where we both were speakers for an event. I never thought I’d be on a platform with celebrities, let alone on a platform PERIOD!) 

Helping others has always been a passion of mine as well. So I decided to put the two together and began helping women solve problems that was hindering their success in life. I later learned this was called coaching so I went, got certified and began to be compensated for my services.

Services? Products? Speaking platform? ME? Absolutely NOT! I never saw this in my future but I am so glad the plan of God trumps our plan any day!

Here’s how I learned to make my rock bottom experience work for me (and you can too):

  1. I identified HOW I got there to ensure I never ended up in this place again.
  2. I got serious about what I wanted because homelessness and unable to pay my bills definitely wasn’t it.
  3. I did some deep soul searching and identified bad habits I needed to break and developed a plan to not only break them but also what I needed to replace them with.

Perhaps you are experiencing your rock bottom right now. I encourage you to take a moment and evaluate where you are, how you got here, where you desire to be and what it will take for you to get there.

Doing the above is a self-coaching technique I use on myself anytime I feel stuck and need a push. I no longer seek outside sources to motivate me but I’ve learned to empower me to be great! You too can be the same!

Down is not your destiny therefore, get up and make this experience work for you!

I’d love to coach you to success! Click here to invest in a 1-on-1 coaching session with me today: http://carlacannon.com/trailblazer-1-on-1-coaching/!

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Remaining In Your “Happy Place”

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“I will give thanks to you, Lord, with all my heart; I will tell of your wonderful deeds.”
~Psalms 9:1~

Hello again! What a great way to jump start your week by learning more ways to trigger your happiness. As you may already know, I am a book lover and Valorie Burton is one of my favorite authors and I am currently still reading her book, Happy Women Live Better: 13 Ways to Trigger Your Happiness Every Day!

Trigger #5 is gratitude. Inside her book Valorie shares that gratitude is simply the expression of thankfulness for the blessings of life. She also shares special emphasis on the fact that it is God’s grace and love that abounds.

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Valorie goes on to say that counting your blessings is another way to keep you happier, healthier and better rested and has also been confirmed by researchers in multiple articles. She encourages you to begin your gratitude habit by keeping a notebook at your bedside and when you awaken in the morning ask yourself a simple question that evokes gratitude, such as, “What three things do I most look forward to today?” Remember she mentioned previously that trigger #1 was anticipation (having great expectation of something great happening to you.)

Therefore, simply put, find a way to be happy, joyful and full of the love of God while focusing on all that is right in your life rather than focusing on what is wrong. We all have so much to be grateful and thankful for and it has been proven that when we show acts of kindness to others it sends off happy triggers all throughout our body. So friend, be sure to do what you must to remain in your “happy place”. You will hear me speak of that place often because it’s very important that your reside there.

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Anything or anyone that disrupts your peace do your best to minimize your interactions with them. Now, I’m sure there are some people you simply can’t get away from such as your co-worker, a family member or perhaps even your spouse. But one of the things that help me in dealing with difficult people is the fact that I have a choice to allow what they say or do to infect me (deeper than affecting you) or simply roll off my back. I often have to remind myself not to take personal attacks personally and to never under any circumstances am I to give my personal power away. Sometimes you simply have to make a decision and declare aloud, “Devil NOT TODAY!”

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Did you know that when you allow someone to cause you to react rather than respond you actually give away your personal power and allow them to control you by their words or actions? Make a decision today to no longer allow this to happen to you. Now, don’t be too hard on yourself for we have all been there but the key is not to remain there.

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Here’s some important things to ask yourself when you find yourself in heated fellowship (argument or a tense situation or environment):

– Will what they have said or done matter six months from now?

– Is it really that serious?

– Is this worth me losing sleep or even my cool over?

I’m sure the answer to each will be ABSOLUTELY NOT!

Friends remember life is precious and you must do everything you can to remain in your happy place and allow yourself to be controlled by nothing or no one except the Holy Spirit. Remember that life is precious, therefore, focus on things that make you happy rather than things that make you sad. Spend time with people who increase your energy and levels of creativity rather than deplete them. Know that it is your divine right to be whole, healed and happy!

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Make it a great day and remember I’d love to hear from you! Email me at Carla@CarlaCannon.com! Until next time…

Triggers to Increase Your Happiness Every Day!

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Hello and welcome to Empowerment Monday!!!!!! As you can see I am having a very colorful start and today thus far has been absolutely amazing!!!! It is my goal today to change your mindset and mentality toward Mondays. Too many people are dreading the idea of having to get up out of their bed and begin their day simply because it’s Monday!

I too understand how it can be to dread going to a job that you hate, or to awaken to the same pain you felt the night before praying and wishing that you could possibly sleep it away but sometimes life just doesn’t work that way! Today, I want to share with you how to SNATCH BACK your happiness NOW!

I am currently reading a book by one of my favorite authors and speakers, Valorie Burton entitled, “Happy Women Live Better: 13 Ways to Trigger Your Happiness Every Day”. For the next 12 days I have committed to reading one trigger per day (while no the elliptical or treadmill) and applying them to my daily life.

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One thing you may not know about me is that I once wrestled with depression and my emotions would often go up and down; I literally felt like a yo-yo. I could be having a great day then all of a sudden one phone call, one person cutting me off on the highway, one unexpected bill had the ability to do something different. Well, like I am encouraging you to do, I had to learn to SNATCH BACK my life and not allow myself to be controlled by anything or anyone except the Holy Spirit!

Inside Valorie’s book I learned that Trigger #1 is: ANTICIPATION. She shares that is important to have at least one thing you look forward to EVERY day. Whether it is seeing your honey, greeting your children as they arrive home from school in the afternoon, seeing your favorite movie, meeting with your team; etc.

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Valorie shares if there is not anything currently on your schedule for you to look forward to, then create it! Meaning don’t wait for a friend to invite you to an event or outing, but you be proactive and invite him or her to join you! She also went on to share how we must learn to be present in the moment. In a society where everyone’s eyes are glued to their cell phones email and social media she shares the importance of “savoring the moment” and not allowing yourself to miss the moment because you are more concerned about sharing the moment than actually enjoying it. This really stuck with me because I am so quick to share things rather than enjoy them and share them later. Trust, I’ll be keeping Valorie’s advice in mind moving forward.

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Valorie went on to share 5 Simple Ways to Build Anticipation:

1. Set a goal: You all know my favorite saying, “A goal without a strategic plan of action is simply a wish.” Valorie says your goal does not have to be to conquer the world but you must be willing to conquer your current day. Isn’t that powerful? Why focus on conquering the world when you can literally only live one day at a time therefore, why not enjoy it!

2. Make a list of simple pleasures: Write out what makes you happy; what you enjoy that adds laughter, smiles and joy to your day. Eliminate anything that depletes you and takes away from you enjoying your current moment. Here is where you may have to re-evaluate friendships and relationships as well as establishing much need boundaries to protect your “happy place”.

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3. Talk About It: Valorie say share your anticipation with others. Talking about what you are looking forward to increases your anticipation which in turn triggers your happiness and brings great joy your way.

4. Add to the Joy: Include others in your “happy” moments. Perhaps invite a friend to join you in the park, or at your favorite coffee shop or book store. Be open to being creative in order to add to the joy.

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5. Count Down: Be a kid about what you are anticipating to take place in your life. Count down. Write it on the white board in your office, change out a sticky note on your frig or mirror daily reminding yourself of what you have to look forward to!

Implement these 5 simple ways to build anticipation and SNATCH BACK your life! Know that life is worth living, but you must tap into your creative power and remember that you are responsible for the outcome of your life. Your divine happiness does not lay on the shoulders of anyone else except yours. Take steps to getting back to happy or remaining in that happy place daily. Sure things will happen, but you deal with them, release them and get right back to your happy place!

Next week we will tackle trigger #2: SMILE! Get ready for your journey of overcoming depression and getting back to happy with your Transformational Coach, using this book as a tool!!!!!

For deeper revelation purchase Valorie Burton’s book by visiting http://www.ValorieBurton.com.