Why Healing is Essential to Your G.R.O.W.T.H.

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In the world we live in today we all have encountered hurt and pain as well as experienced betrayal and disappointment. However, the key to living a successful life full of healing, wholeness and prosperity is learning to release and let go!

Number one, we must learn to release people who have hurt or disappointed us all while not forgetting to release ourselves in the process. To release someone can also be viewed as forgiving them and releasing what they did to you. Too many are bound today by people who are either a.) no longer among the living or b.) have moved on with their lives. One of the greatest tragedies is to allow the issues of life to put you on pause and keep you from living the purpose filled life you were predestined to live.

We must also learn to love ourselves while we are in the process of becoming who we were originally created to be. Refuse to allow your current dilemmas, setbacks or addictions to cause you to love yourself even less. Know that God chose you before the foundation of this world and He never expected you to be fully qualified for He has that portion covered.

Remember this: God doesn’t call the qualified but He qualifies the called!

 

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Number two, we must learn to let go of the people who hurt us. This includes family members and friends as well as teachers, coworkers, church family; etc. Whatever they did is not worth holding on to and by harboring the offense or un-forgiveness you will end up with a sick soul.

I want to encourage you through this acronym of G.R.O.W.T.H:

G- rab ahold of God’s vision for your life. Vision comes from God not man. No  matter how many prophetic lines you stand in, or $100 lines you are manipulated into, vision can not be bought, but only birthed through prayer and communion with God.

R- come into the REALIZATION that you are enough and God chose you! Release feelings of unworthiness knowing that you are  joint heir of Christ and you are forgiven and you are worthy of being the child of THE KING!

O-pen your heart and let God and people in. Trust God to protect you from perpetrators. Sure, guard your heart but do not gate it. When we gate our hearts nothing can come in and nothing can go out. Life is all about relationships. Aren’t you tired of appearing connected when you really are disconnected? Relationships and friendships take work but God is all about them both. Refuse to allow the pain of your past to cause you to trust again. Not everyone is out to hurt you.

W-in others over with love! We must get back to sharing the love of God on a consistent basis. We don’t have to beat people over the head with our Bibles but we love them back to Christ. It is by loving kindness that we are drawn unto Him.

T- ell the devil NO! When he wants you to use your pain as an excuse to disconnect and become isolated; tell him NO! It’s a set up and a trap to get you alone so he can attack you! Solitude is when you are in a place with God but isolation is when you are all alone. Choose to enter a place of solitude but be careful not to shut down and shut others out due to pride or fear of being hurt because that enables the adversary to have an upper hand on you. For where two or more are gathered in the name of Jesus, He shall be in the midst! We are not designed to make it in this world alone. We were created to need one another!

H- elp and build- Life is all about helping others along this journey called life. Extend grace to others that was once extended to you. This is how Women of Standard was birthed out of my desire to be encouraged and in helping others God was helping me. It was in operating in what I now know was purpose that caused my healing process to begin. Choose to help others and build them up where you may even have been torn down.

Know that healing is essential for G.R.O.W.T.H.!

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How to Get Out of Your Own Way

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I can, I shall, I must! I can, I shall, I must! I can I shall I must! These are the words I constantly remind myself of daily (from one of my favorite motivational coaches: Dr. Eric Thomas) as it relates to fulfilling my life purpose. In the world we live in today we are faced daily with all kinds of adversity, opposition and trials that come to tempt us to waver in our faith, give up on our dreams and doubt the God of the universe.

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Every day we are faced with fears of success, fear of failing, worrying how we are going to fund our vision. We ask questions like, “Am I qualified?” “Where am I going to get the money?” “Am I good enough?” “Can this really happen for my life?”

The answer to your question is Yes! You are more qualified than you realize. Your past and previous pain, mistakes and failures have all been washed away by the blood of Jesus and you no longer have to hold on to yesterday’s pain and misery. But you can embrace the love of God and joy that is available to you today.

To answer the second question (Where am I going to get the money from?) remember this: in providing you with vision, God will always make provision! He will never place dreams, goals and desires on the inside of you and then not provide you with the necessary resources to help bring the vision into complete manifestation. God simply does not work that way. But here’s why we fall into a rut: (1) We try to make it happen on our own. (2) We refuse to submit to HIS way of doing things (3) We don’t believe.

The problem with trying to make it happen on our own is in doing so we leave God out. He will not share His glory with anyone. He will not share His crown, He will not allow anyone else to get the credit for the greatness that is to come forth from your life. Instead of being self-reliant, we must be God-reliant.

In being God-reliant that means we do not stress out over things we have no control over but we trust God to do what He says and to fulfill His purpose for our lives. We are reminded in Matthew 6:34 not to give any thought about tomorrow for tomorrow will take care of itself. What does that mean? It means live for today. Be fully present in the moment today. Trust God for your needs to be met today. By spending more time in His word you will become equipped, empowered and strengthened to never give up on your dreams as well as learning what the Word of God says concerning your life. There is absolutely no substitute for God’s word!woman-studying

Next, when we refuse to submit to God’s way of doing things we complicate our own process of overcoming and we welcome even greater adversities that could have been avoided if we would simply trust God, obey Him and take His word as commands rather than suggestions.

Then finally, the question is, ‘Do we really believe that God can perform those things we hold close to our heart?’ Do you really believe God will save your loved ones? Do you really believe God can heal you or someone you love of cancer? Do you really believe God can give you favor with your boss? Do you really believe God can do just what He says as it relates to the dreams and visions you hold dear to your heart? Testing comes for all of us but the one thing we have to remember and that is we are more than conquerors (Romans 8:37) and all things are possible (Matthew 19:26) If we will simply choose to release crazy faith and trust the God of the Bible.  For without faith it is impossible to please the Lord (Hebrews 11:6.)

So the next time you are tempted to doubt God or when you find yourself in a storm that appears to be never ending be reminded that storms come to pass and after every storm there is a rainbow. Just as God made covenant with Noah to never again bring a flood upon the earth (Genesis 9:15-17) , He has also made covenant with you to never leave you nor forsake you (Deuteronomy 31:6). Today is the day i want you to declare aloud, “I am good enough!” “I do have what it takes!” “My dreams will become a reality!” Your words have creative power for in the beginning Christ created and formed the world we now live in by the words He spoke (Hebrews 11:3.) Therefore, you too can declare a thing to be so and it shall manifest for you if you will refuse to doubt and commit to placing your trust totally in God.  download

It is past time for you to declare victory over your life! Know that where you are is not your final destination and you have NOT missed your moment! God knows how old you are, your current financial situation, your desire for a mate….God knows! Allow the fact that God knows to be your comfort. He vows to finish the great work He has started within you (Philippians 1:6.)

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I charge you to release fear and allow your faith to take over! Take God at His word and trust Him to bring forth every desire of your heart in HIS divine timing (this is key.) Refuse to grow weary in well doing (Galatians 6:9) for if God said it, He is going to perform it. Remain in a posture of thanksgiving, prayer and praise.

Scriptural Reference:
Matthew 6:34
Romans 8:37
Matthew 19:26
Hebrews 11:6
Genesis 9:15-17
Deuteronomy 31:6
Hebrews 11:3
Philippians 1:6
Galatians 6:9

Do You Love God MORE?

1385788_627038330673130_699042657_nI will never forget the day I stood before a live audience and shared my previous struggle with homosexuality. As a young girl I grew up in the church but the problem was the church wasn’t in me. Like many, I was a faithful member, I sung in the choir, I was a part of the hospitality committee; my gifts were utilized but I was unaware of what the anointing of God really was and that He had a great plan to use me to help build His Kingdom.

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Earlier in life I had labels placed on me from my school system and they placed me on medication which caused me to think I was crazy or “not normal”. I remember trying to fit in only to be rejected by the “popular” crew in my high school. Funny thing now is many that were popular back then are now on baby number 4, with no husband (or wife for that matter) and some I have even seen in our local newspaper for crimes they have committed.

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Being lost in this cold world trying to find my way I remember simply wanting to be loved and accepted. Growing up with my father being very inconsistent in my life I was left with a void which should have been filled by him instead I found others who I thought could really give me what I needed.

“Too often we try to fill voids with things and people only to end up still feeling empty for only God can fill the empty space we feel within our hearts.”

Truth is, the voids many of us feel today only God can fill them. We often try to replace it with drugs, things (earthly possessions) and even people but the morning after or even late that night we are still left broken and empty.

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I remember thinking as the next man climbed off top of me, God, why do I keep doing this? You see, I know what it feels like to do things and not understand why you do it. I know what it feels like to date men and women and still be left feeling lost, angry, bitter confused and dirty.

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But can I tell you the day I accepted Jesus into my heart and soul as my Lord and Personal Savior is the day my life changed forever. Now sure it was no overnight success and I still have to fight the demons of my past and temptations that try to come across my mind. But what keeps me focused and my foot from slipping is that I love God more!

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Whatever is pulling and tugging at you is trying to steal your focus away from God and your Kingdom assignment. Sure it may feel good to have someone in your bed and you enjoy sexual pleasures with them. But is it really worth it when you are left feeling empty and ashamed knowing you settled for less than what God has for you?

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I want you to know that you can now stand on top of your issue instead of it standing on top of you! There is power in sharing your story and you must understand that your struggle, shortcomings or what others perceive as failures had very little to do with you at all. You were and are simply a vessel the good Lord has decided to use to help spread His light into a dark and broken world. You were perfect for the assignment. God chose you because He knew you had everything you needed to make it through. Why do you think you are still in your right mind? Why do you think you have not given up? It’s because God has you in the very palm of His hand and He refuses to let you go!

What’s the next step? Now you have to be willing to let go of everything that was once familiar to you in order to embrace this new thing; new way of living the Holy Spirit wants to bestow upon. I too had to give up everything in order to receive EVERYTHING! Does that make sense? I found out that my everything wasn’t worthy to be compared to God’s everything. 

What God has to offer you is more than a temporary fix; what He has is the real thing. I’m sure you remember the song that says, Ain’t nothing like the real thing baby!”  That is how I feel when it comes to God. From that day to this I am yet still learning how to deny myself and tell my flesh to shut up and call forth my spirit man to speak loud and clear.

When you grow and develop to the place that you are tired of disappointing God and allowing the devil to beat the crap out of you repeatedly that is when you will stop falling. It is time to make a decision. What is it going to be? Do you love the drugs or God more? Do you love sex or God more? Do you love your earthly possessions (house, cars, money; etc) or do you love God more?

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Today is the day to choose who you are going to serve and please don’t feel that you must have it all figured out! This journey called life is a daily process and I want to encourage you that nothing happens over night but the key is to never give up. Fight what you feel to reach what you know to be true and that is that God is a God who reigns in Heaven and Earth!

Join me in declaring “I LOVE GOD MORE!”

More Triggers to Getting Happy

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Welcome to Empowerment Monday! It is my goal to share pearls of wisdom with you every Monday to help jump start your week and honestly at times that can become a challenge for me. Especially with everything I have on my plate but I’m sure you understand how that can be at times but nonetheless let’s dive right in!

As you know, the book I am currently reading for personal development is Happy Women Live Better by Valorie Burton and I am absolutely loving it! Since our last talk I am now on trigger #4: Financial Savvy.

One of the things I love the most about this trigger is how Valorie reminds us that as believers we must understand that money is not evil but it is the love of money that is evil. Truth is, as CHRISTians we need money to not only live from day to day but to also advance the Kingdom of God. I don’t believe the poorer we are, the closer we are to Christ.

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The Bible I read tells me, the earth is the Lord’s and the fullness thereof (Psalm 24:1) and it also goes on to tell us in Deuteronomy 8:18, “But thou shalt remember the LORD thy God: for it is he that giveth thee power to get wealth…”  You see, we as the church have this thing all wrong about money, wealth and financial freedom. I believe now is the time for us as the church to become better stewards over what the Lord has already blessed us with so He can make us ruler over many more as He promises in His word.

Matthew 25:21 tells us that when we are faithful over a few things, the Lord will make us ruler over many things! What does that mean? If God can trust you to tithe off of $100, then he may send $1,000. If he can trust you with a thousand then I believe He will eventually bless you with $1,000,000.

Whoo! Just reading that number as I type this message to you  made my baby leap! Perhaps I’m Mary and you are Elizabeth (Luke 1:41) and it is time for your baby to leap! I pray that as you read these words you begin to rejoice and get excited about your future and making money to create a better life for you and your children. Know that it’s perfectly okay for you to up-level your life and become a millionaire!

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Before we get out of here I want to share 4 of the 8 ways money can trigger your happiness that Valorie mentions in her book. They are:

1. Live Below Your Means: Here Valorie shares the importance of living on less than 75% of your income.

2.Be Meek: Valorie says spend less than you are capable of spending. She says, “Trust me, it’ll make you happier!”

3. Give Some Away: Valorie says, giving not receiving is the way to happiness! She mentions here the importance of tithing and also blessing others.

4. Buy Experiences, Not Things: Valorie says it is past time for you to create an experience for yourself by (1) trying something new (2) eating a nice meal at your favorite restaurant with a great friend (3) Head to the beach or hit the slopes! (4) Buy a nice piece of art that you absolutely love and hang it up on your wall!

I really love how Valorie shares in point 4 because so often we run out and buy the latest Michael Kors bag or red bottoms which all depreciates after we purchase it. But your experience in the islands or taking your kids skiing will forever be a memory within your mind that you will always cherish.

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As you know, Valorie Burton is one of my favorite authors therefore to learn the other 4 triggers she mentions in her book order your copy via Amazon.com or directly at http://www.valorieburton.com. I absolutely love her and I’m telling you this book is blessing my life for I am a woman who once wrestled with depression or with the experience of abnormal ph levels my moods were once up and down. Therefore, learning my happy triggers was a great place for me to begin to snatch back my life, my joy as well as my peace!

It’s funny that as people we can identify rather quickly what makes us tick but knowing what makes you happy is more important to living the abundant life Christ died for us to have!

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Triggers to Increase Your Happiness Every Day!

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Hello and welcome to Empowerment Monday!!!!!! As you can see I am having a very colorful start and today thus far has been absolutely amazing!!!! It is my goal today to change your mindset and mentality toward Mondays. Too many people are dreading the idea of having to get up out of their bed and begin their day simply because it’s Monday!

I too understand how it can be to dread going to a job that you hate, or to awaken to the same pain you felt the night before praying and wishing that you could possibly sleep it away but sometimes life just doesn’t work that way! Today, I want to share with you how to SNATCH BACK your happiness NOW!

I am currently reading a book by one of my favorite authors and speakers, Valorie Burton entitled, “Happy Women Live Better: 13 Ways to Trigger Your Happiness Every Day”. For the next 12 days I have committed to reading one trigger per day (while no the elliptical or treadmill) and applying them to my daily life.

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One thing you may not know about me is that I once wrestled with depression and my emotions would often go up and down; I literally felt like a yo-yo. I could be having a great day then all of a sudden one phone call, one person cutting me off on the highway, one unexpected bill had the ability to do something different. Well, like I am encouraging you to do, I had to learn to SNATCH BACK my life and not allow myself to be controlled by anything or anyone except the Holy Spirit!

Inside Valorie’s book I learned that Trigger #1 is: ANTICIPATION. She shares that is important to have at least one thing you look forward to EVERY day. Whether it is seeing your honey, greeting your children as they arrive home from school in the afternoon, seeing your favorite movie, meeting with your team; etc.

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Valorie shares if there is not anything currently on your schedule for you to look forward to, then create it! Meaning don’t wait for a friend to invite you to an event or outing, but you be proactive and invite him or her to join you! She also went on to share how we must learn to be present in the moment. In a society where everyone’s eyes are glued to their cell phones email and social media she shares the importance of “savoring the moment” and not allowing yourself to miss the moment because you are more concerned about sharing the moment than actually enjoying it. This really stuck with me because I am so quick to share things rather than enjoy them and share them later. Trust, I’ll be keeping Valorie’s advice in mind moving forward.

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Valorie went on to share 5 Simple Ways to Build Anticipation:

1. Set a goal: You all know my favorite saying, “A goal without a strategic plan of action is simply a wish.” Valorie says your goal does not have to be to conquer the world but you must be willing to conquer your current day. Isn’t that powerful? Why focus on conquering the world when you can literally only live one day at a time therefore, why not enjoy it!

2. Make a list of simple pleasures: Write out what makes you happy; what you enjoy that adds laughter, smiles and joy to your day. Eliminate anything that depletes you and takes away from you enjoying your current moment. Here is where you may have to re-evaluate friendships and relationships as well as establishing much need boundaries to protect your “happy place”.

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3. Talk About It: Valorie say share your anticipation with others. Talking about what you are looking forward to increases your anticipation which in turn triggers your happiness and brings great joy your way.

4. Add to the Joy: Include others in your “happy” moments. Perhaps invite a friend to join you in the park, or at your favorite coffee shop or book store. Be open to being creative in order to add to the joy.

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5. Count Down: Be a kid about what you are anticipating to take place in your life. Count down. Write it on the white board in your office, change out a sticky note on your frig or mirror daily reminding yourself of what you have to look forward to!

Implement these 5 simple ways to build anticipation and SNATCH BACK your life! Know that life is worth living, but you must tap into your creative power and remember that you are responsible for the outcome of your life. Your divine happiness does not lay on the shoulders of anyone else except yours. Take steps to getting back to happy or remaining in that happy place daily. Sure things will happen, but you deal with them, release them and get right back to your happy place!

Next week we will tackle trigger #2: SMILE! Get ready for your journey of overcoming depression and getting back to happy with your Transformational Coach, using this book as a tool!!!!!

For deeper revelation purchase Valorie Burton’s book by visiting http://www.ValorieBurton.com.

Are You a Wounded Warrior?

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Not long ago we honored/remembered the innocent lives of nearly 3,000+ people which were lost on September 11, 2001 where terrorists attacked the Unites States. They hijacked four airplanes in mid-flight and flew two of the planes into two skyscrapers at the World Trade Center in New York City. The impact caused the buildings to catch fire and collapse. Another plane destroyed part of the Pentagon (the U.S. military headquarters) in Arlington, Virginia. The fourth plane then crashed in Shanksville, Pennsylvania. Officials believe that the terrorists on that plane intended to destroy either the White House or the U.S. Capitol.

Those who survived this attack were left severely wounded and this is where I gained to title: Wounded Warriors from. Just as in the natural we experience various attacks which can wear on my physical bodies, we can also undergo spiritual attacks which can weigh on us mentally and spiritually.

During my time of prayer the Lord showed me there were many wounded warriors among us today that never stepped foot in Iraq or never engaged in a physical war here on the earth but were engaging in spiritual warfare which took place in their mind, body and spirit.

God began to show me that we have a lot of people encouraging, ministering and empowering others who really need to be encouraged, ministered to and empowered themselves. So many of them have been not just hurt but wounded by people they once trusted, betrayed by those who walked the closest to them and denied by those who were supposed to have their back.

I began to intercede for these individuals being reminded of this feeling for I knew it all too well. You see, society teaches us that no matter what keep moving; keep pushing and keep moving forward in life! We hear this so much to the point that we never take time to treat our wounds. We never take time to acknowledge the hurt, the betrayal or even the events that almost took us out of here if not physically, then spiritually.

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Many are doing great things in the body of Christ but often lack the true power of God because we are so busy trying to be Superman and Superwoman pushing ourselves into believing that we can do what only God can do. Sure, we shall do greater works! But we spend so much energy trying to get others to live right instead of ensuring our own foot doesn’t slip in the process. We are so quick to put our mouths on others only to forget that we were once where they are now.

WOUNDED WARRIORS. These are people who do great things in the name of Jesus but it’s in vain because it gets to a point where they begin to operate out of religion and a repeated cycle instead of being led by the Holy Spirit. I believe there comes a time when we literally may have to shut everything down and be honest with God and cry out to Him and tell him we are hurting, tell him we are in pain, tell him we are literally fighting for our lives and truth is we don’t want anyone to know because what will they think of us? What about all the encouraging words we have been sharing with others? Why is it not working for us? Why don’t we apply our own words to our current situation but instead we’d rather walk around like everything is okay. When on the inside we are broken, crying ourselves to sleep at night, crying out to God in the midnight hour or even worst taking pills to stay awake during the day and taking pills to get us through the night.

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If you are suffering from any of the above I mentioned then you are indeed a wounded warrior in need of repair. Often times we are so accustomed to fighting that we can’t accept God’s word when He says vengeance belongs to Him according to Deuteronomy 32:35.

I want you to know that it is okay to be honest about how we feel. The Bible never tells us not to acknowledge our true feelings, it only tells us not to be led by them. Trust me, hurt people hurt people and if you are wounded and have yet to be healed you are hurting others in ways you may not even be aware of.

Here are a few ways you can overcome and transition from a wounded warrior to a healed warrior who is indeed a force to be reckoned with:

  1. Be honest about the pain you feel- Cast all of your cares upon the Lord, for He cares for you! (I Peter 5:7)
  2. Submit to Prayer & begin to pray for the people or individual who hurt you. Or perhaps you need to forgive yourself for something you have done. Know that God loves you and He’ll never leave and forsake you. He is one you can share your deepest secrets with and never have to worry about being exposed as long as you have a repentant and sincere heart. Remember God chastens those whom He loves and it is to convict you not condemn you (for condemnation is not of God- Romans 8:1)
  3.  Declare the Word of God over your situation- We are instructed to speak what God’s word says about us and not get stuck in what things appear to be in the natural. Be careful with this part because without proper balance you can end up living in a state of denial. Face your truth. Be honest about where you are. But also, know that God loves you too much for you to remain where you are. Cast down any thoughts that are not of God and that do not draw you closer to Him (II Corinthians 10:5) Remember you control your thoughts and anything the enemy offers you are merely suggestions which you can deny and say “NO!” to! Just because a thought crosses your mind does not mean you should go ahead and do it! No, talk back to the enemy and speak aloud what the Word of God says about your situation.

Now that you know how to get out of a wounded state to a healed state I want you to declare aloud:

“Yes, I was hurt, but I have acknowledged it and now I am healed!”

“Yes, I made some mistakes but I will not allow it to hinder me from transforming into who Christ created me to be!”

“I forgive every person who has ever hurt me!”

“I am whole, healed and free in Jesus!”

“I have laid aside every weight and I now carry unspeakable joy in my heart which is indeed my strength according to Nehemiah 8:10!”

“I am the righteousness of God and I am a true warrior but every now and then warriors have to take time to cater to their own wounds so they can go back out and fight the good fight of faith!”

“I no longer try to fight a spiritual battle in my flesh for the real war goes on in the spirit!”

My friend I am so proud of you and I want you to know that old things have passed away and behold all things have become new. Take time for you on today. It’s okay to take a break from social media, so shut down your emails, text messages and phone calls because the pressures of life can really drain us if we allow it. Go on a mini vacation even if you have to get a hotel for a night just to have a change of scenery. Take your bible and your Ipad with your favorite worship music and just steal away with Jesus. I promise you will leave His presence completely restored, healed and full of His love. Go in peace & know that I am always here to pray you through!

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If this blog touched your heart and was truly for you please email me directly at Carla@WomenofStandard.org. Know that you are not alone. I too have been a wounded warrior. I was giving all I had to others so to the point I was left with nothing. No one could pick me up in the spirit and tell I was broken in the midst of my smiles, Facebook posts and while encouraging others. But guess what? God didn’t allow me to. He instructs us to work out our own soul salvation with fear and trembling and so what no one called or no one could tell I was hurting, God was there all along and He didn’t allow them to come to my rescue because guess what? Then I would develop an unconscious habit of depending on them instead of Him.  Be blessed and know that you are not alone and where you are you do not have to remain. The choice is yours!