The Power of Hitting Rock Bottom

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I never thought I would be living the current life I live. Four years ago I worked in Corporate America, unhappy with my life and was barely making ends meet. Two years prior to that my daughter and I experienced homelessness and had to go and live with a complete stranger while I took two months to get my stuff together.

It took me hitting rock bottom to make a decision to never allow myself or my daughter to get this low ever again! That was 6 years ago and since then I have transitioned off my 9 to 5 which within 6 months of leaving I tripled my income by simply pursuing my passion: talking. LOL

I have always been the type to never meet a stranger and could spark up a conversation with a dog if he could talk back!

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(Pictured with Celebrity Stylist J. Bolin in PA where we both were speakers for an event. I never thought I’d be on a platform with celebrities, let alone on a platform PERIOD!) 

Helping others has always been a passion of mine as well. So I decided to put the two together and began helping women solve problems that was hindering their success in life. I later learned this was called coaching so I went, got certified and began to be compensated for my services.

Services? Products? Speaking platform? ME? Absolutely NOT! I never saw this in my future but I am so glad the plan of God trumps our plan any day!

Here’s how I learned to make my rock bottom experience work for me (and you can too):

  1. I identified HOW I got there to ensure I never ended up in this place again.
  2. I got serious about what I wanted because homelessness and unable to pay my bills definitely wasn’t it.
  3. I did some deep soul searching and identified bad habits I needed to break and developed a plan to not only break them but also what I needed to replace them with.

Perhaps you are experiencing your rock bottom right now. I encourage you to take a moment and evaluate where you are, how you got here, where you desire to be and what it will take for you to get there.

Doing the above is a self-coaching technique I use on myself anytime I feel stuck and need a push. I no longer seek outside sources to motivate me but I’ve learned to empower me to be great! You too can be the same!

Down is not your destiny therefore, get up and make this experience work for you!

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Why NOT to Be Jealous of Others

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I know today’s topic is kind of straight forward but it’s so necessary. You think celebrities like Cardi B & Nicki Minaj are the only ones that experience jealousy in their line of work?

Absolutely not! It happens to all women and if a woman says they never felt an ounce of jealousy toward another woman’s success, marriage, new baby, loving support system, album sales and beyond they are not being truthful.

Jealousy is an emotion like anything else that you can’t prevent yourself from feeling. But what you can do is determine how long it stays. It’s like a seed, will you feed it with negative thoughts about the person who is winning, comparing yourself or even finding ways to tear them down.

OR will you pay attention to your own blessings, congratulate them and know your time is coming? Prayerfully you will choose the latter.

Often times we do real good at talking sisterhood but not so great at walking sisterhood.

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(The late great Whitney Houston & Mariah Carey. Society constantly tried to make us choose between who we liked the best when the truth is they were both dope and had amazing range vocally.)

When I experienced a real life moment today of witnessing one of my fellow colleagues get her new talk show immediately I had mixed feelings.

I was happy for her but at the same time I was wondering, God why do I feel stuck in this area or when are things really going to take off for me?

As if God had not done enough already. I admit, I am a young woman and I have found myself more than once slightly coveting the success of women who were ten or more years older than me.

Surprised I shared that? Don’t be! I used to stalk one lady’s page so much in the name of “inspiration” that was really “comparison” that I had to block her just so I wouldn’t keep going to her page to see what new amazing thing she had done! (laughs) It’s funny now but I promise you this is a true story!

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(The late greats Michael Jackson & Prince. Competition was often stirred between these two great artists when clearly they both had a place in the world!)

After recognizing this emotion I then had to pause and reflect while doing some self-coaching.

Here’s what it sounded like: 

“Carla, you are 33 years young. You run and operate a 6-figure business while raising your teenage daughter. You host your own events in which women travel across the country to sit at your feet and heed your wisdom. You are an 8x best-selling author! You are soon to turn 34! You now have an amazing team of women who are in your corner and have your back in life and business. Your health is great! You’re much closer to being healed completely from all of your childhood wounds than you were previously. You have an amazing support system not to mention again you are only 33 years old and  built your business/brand from the bottom up. You don’t have a major ministry or business backing you and yet you continue to thrive! Really Carla? Get over yourself and tell the Lord thank you!”

If we are not careful that spirit of jealousy will creep up on us before we even know it. As ministry leaders and business owners, and people as a whole we must stop comparing our process to others who have been in the game much longer than we have. Sure, it was prophesied to me that I’d have my own talk show. But hey, if the opportunity hasn’t come yet, it’s because it’s not time yet. Get it? YET!

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(Lupita & Beyonce’: Why when two women wear the same dress we allow society to encourage us to “cast our vote” on Who wore it better? Why can’t the headlines read: Both Beautiful Queens Rocked Elegant Green! Nah, that would be too empowering and way too simple!)

So what if the real test of my readiness was if I could celebrate someone else who got first what I am currently waiting on? A powerful point to ponder huh?

Here are some things to keep in mind the next time that mean monster called jealousy tries to creep in: 

  1. Jealousy is not cute although it is a real emotion.
  2. God is no respecter of persons therefore, He has not forgotten me
  3. I am not ready for the next level if I can not celebrate someone else in their moment.
  4. God has done so many amazing things in my life that if he doesn’t do anything else He has done enough!
  5. Never covet someone else’s moment. You never know what it took to get them there!

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(What if we never chose a side: East Coast VS West Coast, would Tupac & Biggie still be alive today? When is enough, enough? Oh yeah the spirit of comparison definitely happens among brothers as well. Ladies, it’s not just us. Men just hide it better LOL)

After having this quick pep-talk with myself I thought, hey… I’m sure I am not the only one who has experienced moments like this. I know we don’t like to talk about them but it’s healthy to do so and will help you overcome and continue to work on yourself while celebrating others in their “wins” in the process.

Did today’s blog resonate with you? Comment below and share a time you experienced being jealous of someone else’s win and how you handled it. No need to be ashamed! As you can see we are all in this together!

 

Why You Can’t Give Up Now

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Never allow what you’re going through to deter you from what God told you to do. One way that I remain encouraged is by studying the Word of God. If I listened to what others have said about me or allowed my mistakes to define me I would remain stuck and in bondage.

However, I choose to gain strength through my relationship with Christ and allow His word to reveal itself in my life. I encourage you to do the same. I know life happens and it gets tough but you are a lot tougher than you realize.

Where you are is not where you will always be and you must believe that and accept it as your truth. God has great plans for your life but you have to make a decision to trust and believe in Him and allow Him to direct your path.

For years I allowed my pain to lead me; but no more! I am now driven by the love of God and I trust His thoughts toward me. I encourage you to do the same.

You can not remain stuck where you are, too many are relying on your freedom to experience their’s God uses people and I encourage you to let Him use you to help someone else!

Scripture References: Proverbs 3:5-6|Isaiah 26:3|Jeremiah 17:7-8