Remaining In Your “Happy Place”



“I will give thanks to you, Lord, with all my heart; I will tell of your wonderful deeds.”
~Psalms 9:1~

Hello again! What a great way to jump start your week by learning more ways to trigger your happiness. As you may already know, I am a book lover and Valorie Burton is one of my favorite authors and I am currently still reading her book, Happy Women Live Better: 13 Ways to Trigger Your Happiness Every Day!

Trigger #5 is gratitude. Inside her book Valorie shares that gratitude is simply the expression of thankfulness for the blessings of life. She also shares special emphasis on the fact that it is God’s grace and love that abounds.


Valorie goes on to say that counting your blessings is another way to keep you happier, healthier and better rested and has also been confirmed by researchers in multiple articles. She encourages you to begin your gratitude habit by keeping a notebook at your bedside and when you awaken in the morning ask yourself a simple question that evokes gratitude, such as, “What three things do I most look forward to today?” Remember she mentioned previously that trigger #1 was anticipation (having great expectation of something great happening to you.)

Therefore, simply put, find a way to be happy, joyful and full of the love of God while focusing on all that is right in your life rather than focusing on what is wrong. We all have so much to be grateful and thankful for and it has been proven that when we show acts of kindness to others it sends off happy triggers all throughout our body. So friend, be sure to do what you must to remain in your “happy place”. You will hear me speak of that place often because it’s very important that your reside there.

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Anything or anyone that disrupts your peace do your best to minimize your interactions with them. Now, I’m sure there are some people you simply can’t get away from such as your co-worker, a family member or perhaps even your spouse. But one of the things that help me in dealing with difficult people is the fact that I have a choice to allow what they say or do to infect me (deeper than affecting you) or simply roll off my back. I often have to remind myself not to take personal attacks personally and to never under any circumstances am I to give my personal power away. Sometimes you simply have to make a decision and declare aloud, “Devil NOT TODAY!”


Did you know that when you allow someone to cause you to react rather than respond you actually give away your personal power and allow them to control you by their words or actions? Make a decision today to no longer allow this to happen to you. Now, don’t be too hard on yourself for we have all been there but the key is not to remain there.


Here’s some important things to ask yourself when you find yourself in heated fellowship (argument or a tense situation or environment):

– Will what they have said or done matter six months from now?

– Is it really that serious?

– Is this worth me losing sleep or even my cool over?

I’m sure the answer to each will be ABSOLUTELY NOT!

Friends remember life is precious and you must do everything you can to remain in your happy place and allow yourself to be controlled by nothing or no one except the Holy Spirit. Remember that life is precious, therefore, focus on things that make you happy rather than things that make you sad. Spend time with people who increase your energy and levels of creativity rather than deplete them. Know that it is your divine right to be whole, healed and happy!


Make it a great day and remember I’d love to hear from you! Email me at! Until next time…


More Triggers to Getting Happy



Welcome to Empowerment Monday! It is my goal to share pearls of wisdom with you every Monday to help jump start your week and honestly at times that can become a challenge for me. Especially with everything I have on my plate but I’m sure you understand how that can be at times but nonetheless let’s dive right in!

As you know, the book I am currently reading for personal development is Happy Women Live Better by Valorie Burton and I am absolutely loving it! Since our last talk I am now on trigger #4: Financial Savvy.

One of the things I love the most about this trigger is how Valorie reminds us that as believers we must understand that money is not evil but it is the love of money that is evil. Truth is, as CHRISTians we need money to not only live from day to day but to also advance the Kingdom of God. I don’t believe the poorer we are, the closer we are to Christ.


The Bible I read tells me, the earth is the Lord’s and the fullness thereof (Psalm 24:1) and it also goes on to tell us in Deuteronomy 8:18, “But thou shalt remember the LORD thy God: for it is he that giveth thee power to get wealth…”  You see, we as the church have this thing all wrong about money, wealth and financial freedom. I believe now is the time for us as the church to become better stewards over what the Lord has already blessed us with so He can make us ruler over many more as He promises in His word.

Matthew 25:21 tells us that when we are faithful over a few things, the Lord will make us ruler over many things! What does that mean? If God can trust you to tithe off of $100, then he may send $1,000. If he can trust you with a thousand then I believe He will eventually bless you with $1,000,000.

Whoo! Just reading that number as I type this message to you  made my baby leap! Perhaps I’m Mary and you are Elizabeth (Luke 1:41) and it is time for your baby to leap! I pray that as you read these words you begin to rejoice and get excited about your future and making money to create a better life for you and your children. Know that it’s perfectly okay for you to up-level your life and become a millionaire!


Before we get out of here I want to share 4 of the 8 ways money can trigger your happiness that Valorie mentions in her book. They are:

1. Live Below Your Means: Here Valorie shares the importance of living on less than 75% of your income.

2.Be Meek: Valorie says spend less than you are capable of spending. She says, “Trust me, it’ll make you happier!”

3. Give Some Away: Valorie says, giving not receiving is the way to happiness! She mentions here the importance of tithing and also blessing others.

4. Buy Experiences, Not Things: Valorie says it is past time for you to create an experience for yourself by (1) trying something new (2) eating a nice meal at your favorite restaurant with a great friend (3) Head to the beach or hit the slopes! (4) Buy a nice piece of art that you absolutely love and hang it up on your wall!

I really love how Valorie shares in point 4 because so often we run out and buy the latest Michael Kors bag or red bottoms which all depreciates after we purchase it. But your experience in the islands or taking your kids skiing will forever be a memory within your mind that you will always cherish.


As you know, Valorie Burton is one of my favorite authors therefore to learn the other 4 triggers she mentions in her book order your copy via or directly at I absolutely love her and I’m telling you this book is blessing my life for I am a woman who once wrestled with depression or with the experience of abnormal ph levels my moods were once up and down. Therefore, learning my happy triggers was a great place for me to begin to snatch back my life, my joy as well as my peace!

It’s funny that as people we can identify rather quickly what makes us tick but knowing what makes you happy is more important to living the abundant life Christ died for us to have!

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