Today while at my desk working I began to reflect over previous friendships, partnerships and relationships in general. There have been some people that I’ve had to walk away from and some that have walked away from me.
In thinking of this I learned that we are the only ones who can determine who we allow into our intimate space and who we must re-position to the balcony. There have been some that were once in my inner circle that I had cut off due to immaturity and really not knowing how to face challenges in life therefore, instead of dealing with the issues I would run away from them instead. There have also been some that I disconnected from due to finally realizing some things and coming to terms with the fact that the relationship no longer served me.
There were some connections in which individuals have disconnected from me due to misunderstandings or whatever was considered a nonnegotiable in their life.
Lastly, there have also been times when I have allowed people to stay in my life much longer than they should and I paid for it in the end.
The point I am trying to make is in everything you do give it your absolute best. Whether it be friendships, professional relationships and partnerships or dating relationships as well. Give it all you got! Don’t allow fear of them walking away or previous failures hold you captive from experiencing true love and the advantages the right partnerships can bring.
Life has many things to teach us on a consistent basis if we would lend it our ear and listen with our soul rather than our heart. You see, your soul is where your mind, will and emotions live. The depths of who you and I are is found in how we think, operate and allow things to affect us.
Following your heart can oftentimes be misleading and will send you down paths you never intended to take. Be prayerful and cautious, not fearful and suspicious. It’s perfectly okay to guard your space and determine who you will allow to come in and who needs to exit stage left.
No matter your decision remember you can’t make it in this life alone. Face your issues, as well as your fears, love people and give them permission to fail and make mistakes. The number one problem in relationships is we fail to communicate effectively. Sure, we are talking but are we speaking in a language that is foreign to the listener? Are we so concerned and wrapped up in our own needs that we neglect the needs of the person we are trying to convey a message to?
Search within and really evaluate your friendships, relationships and partnerships that have gone wrong. Then, accept the truth of whatever the common factors are and commit to becoming better in the necessary areas. Even people who walk away from us without a cause can teach us a lesson.
Be sure to keep people in their proper places. Don’t lean too much on another human more than you do God. He’s jealous and He will shut it down if that’s what it takes to get your attention.
No matter how close we may walk with Holy Spirit we will all be disappointed in life, hurt people as well as be hurt by them. The growing factor is to learn how to shift and learn from things that have happened and refuse to allow your heart to turn cold toward others due to previous pains you have caused others as well as what they have caused you.
Walk in love today, and remember to give your best to your friend, partner, family and loved ones while pouring your heart into all you do and trust God to protect you as you serve and allow others to serve you!
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