Why NOT to Be Jealous of Others

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I know today’s topic is kind of straight forward but it’s so necessary. You think celebrities like Cardi B & Nicki Minaj are the only ones that experience jealousy in their line of work?

Absolutely not! It happens to all women and if a woman says they never felt an ounce of jealousy toward another woman’s success, marriage, new baby, loving support system, album sales and beyond they are not being truthful.

Jealousy is an emotion like anything else that you can’t prevent yourself from feeling. But what you can do is determine how long it stays. It’s like a seed, will you feed it with negative thoughts about the person who is winning, comparing yourself or even finding ways to tear them down.

OR will you pay attention to your own blessings, congratulate them and know your time is coming? Prayerfully you will choose the latter.

Often times we do real good at talking sisterhood but not so great at walking sisterhood.

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(The late great Whitney Houston & Mariah Carey. Society constantly tried to make us choose between who we liked the best when the truth is they were both dope and had amazing range vocally.)

When I experienced a real life moment today of witnessing one of my fellow colleagues get her new talk show immediately I had mixed feelings.

I was happy for her but at the same time I was wondering, God why do I feel stuck in this area or when are things really going to take off for me?

As if God had not done enough already. I admit, I am a young woman and I have found myself more than once slightly coveting the success of women who were ten or more years older than me.

Surprised I shared that? Don’t be! I used to stalk one lady’s page so much in the name of “inspiration” that was really “comparison” that I had to block her just so I wouldn’t keep going to her page to see what new amazing thing she had done! (laughs) It’s funny now but I promise you this is a true story!

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(The late greats Michael Jackson & Prince. Competition was often stirred between these two great artists when clearly they both had a place in the world!)

After recognizing this emotion I then had to pause and reflect while doing some self-coaching.

Here’s what it sounded like: 

“Carla, you are 33 years young. You run and operate a 6-figure business while raising your teenage daughter. You host your own events in which women travel across the country to sit at your feet and heed your wisdom. You are an 8x best-selling author! You are soon to turn 34! You now have an amazing team of women who are in your corner and have your back in life and business. Your health is great! You’re much closer to being healed completely from all of your childhood wounds than you were previously. You have an amazing support system not to mention again you are only 33 years old and  built your business/brand from the bottom up. You don’t have a major ministry or business backing you and yet you continue to thrive! Really Carla? Get over yourself and tell the Lord thank you!”

If we are not careful that spirit of jealousy will creep up on us before we even know it. As ministry leaders and business owners, and people as a whole we must stop comparing our process to others who have been in the game much longer than we have. Sure, it was prophesied to me that I’d have my own talk show. But hey, if the opportunity hasn’t come yet, it’s because it’s not time yet. Get it? YET!

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(Lupita & Beyonce’: Why when two women wear the same dress we allow society to encourage us to “cast our vote” on Who wore it better? Why can’t the headlines read: Both Beautiful Queens Rocked Elegant Green! Nah, that would be too empowering and way too simple!)

So what if the real test of my readiness was if I could celebrate someone else who got first what I am currently waiting on? A powerful point to ponder huh?

Here are some things to keep in mind the next time that mean monster called jealousy tries to creep in: 

  1. Jealousy is not cute although it is a real emotion.
  2. God is no respecter of persons therefore, He has not forgotten me
  3. I am not ready for the next level if I can not celebrate someone else in their moment.
  4. God has done so many amazing things in my life that if he doesn’t do anything else He has done enough!
  5. Never covet someone else’s moment. You never know what it took to get them there!

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(What if we never chose a side: East Coast VS West Coast, would Tupac & Biggie still be alive today? When is enough, enough? Oh yeah the spirit of comparison definitely happens among brothers as well. Ladies, it’s not just us. Men just hide it better LOL)

After having this quick pep-talk with myself I thought, hey… I’m sure I am not the only one who has experienced moments like this. I know we don’t like to talk about them but it’s healthy to do so and will help you overcome and continue to work on yourself while celebrating others in their “wins” in the process.

Did today’s blog resonate with you? Comment below and share a time you experienced being jealous of someone else’s win and how you handled it. No need to be ashamed! As you can see we are all in this together!

 

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3 Mistakes I Made in My Business & How YOU Can Avoid Them

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WOW! I literally just realized that October of this year will be 8 years since I launched my brand, Women of Standard and 4 years since I walked away from my job in Corporate America.

I was the girl who was willing to put the time in building “God’s dream” for my life in the  midst of going to work everyday and putting in 40+ hours a week.

During this process of building my brand, I made a lot of mistakes and today I want to share a few of them with you today.

Despite my success today as a 6-figure earner through my coaching & consulting, and publishing business, there are things I experienced early on that if you take heed to could save you a lot of time, energy and money.

Here they are: 

  1. I didn’t develop a financial plan before leaving my job- Now, for me, my exit from my 9 to 5 was a straight up faith move. I turned in my two week resignation and at the end of its term I was now on my own with only $250 in the bank with the words, “Will you trust me?” repeating in my ear.

    For me, this was a faith walk because I had no desire to step out and do the things I felt called to do such as host events, launch a magazine and inspire people around the world. Initially I was scared to death and often wondered if I had made the right decision.

    The first three weeks were rough. I had no clue what to do with myself. I hadn’t created a plan on how I was going to make money or take care of my daughter. I cried for two weeks straight feeling as if I had made the wrong decision.

    Then one day something snapped and it was as if I could now hear and see clearly and I sat down at my computer and ideas to create trainings, programs, events (both live and online) began to flow. Now everything was up from there and truth is my lights never got cut off, my car was never repossessed, my daughter and I never went without a meal. I stood flatfooted on the scripture that says, ” The blessings of the Lord, it maketh rich, and he addeth no sorrow with it.” (Proverbs 10:22)

    Now although this worked for me I don’t advise everyone to try this. I am all for Faithing It; however, one must know that they know, that they know, that they know that God has called them down that path. I know people who thought they heard God and moved prematurely and it cost them everything including their wife.

    Why am I sharing this? Because there’s absolutely nothing wrong with being sure. Write out what you desire to do, How much money you desire to make, How you intend to make it, the turn around time in which you hope to do so. Write out EVERYTHING. Then after you write it out, pray over it and seek wise counsel.

    I remember when the Lord laid it on my heart to become an entrepreneur, I went to my pastor at the time to discuss it with him. Being that he his background was in Corporate America and he was making over a hundred thousand dollars a year I just knew he would encourage me and have plenty of strategies to share with me.

    NOT! I sat in his office for over an hour as he shared every failed business adventure with me. Not one idea did he share with me that worked;and he had many successful endeavors.

    I remember him telling me basically that there was no time for dreaming and I couldn’t gamble my life because I must always ensure my daughter had a place to call home. I was told to focus on my daughter…in my mind… she was all I was thinking about.

    I left there feeling defeated, disappointed and confused. If my own pastor didn’t believe in me then how the heck was I going to get this done. Note: I had never really (at this time) been validated by my natural father.

    I cried for weeks after that and because my pastor was a trusted voice in my life I began to lean in to him more than I was to God.

    Until one day the Lord placed a woman by the name of Real Talk Kim into my life. After sharing what I had felt the Lord was telling me, Kim was wide open and said, “You better obey God! Nobody has to understand but you and God!” She then went on to share her journey of coming off her job at Bloomingdale’s. It wasn’t until last year at my Women of Standard Experience Charlotte that I learned when I was actually the first person to book Kim as a speaker for my event after she quit her job. How awesome is that?
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2.  I wanted to help EVERYBODY!– I will keep this one short and to the point. If you are going to lead a profitable business you are going to have to get clear/specific on who you are called to serve.

My problem was that as a “church girl” I wanted to help everybody and it wasn’t until one day I was in prayer and literally felt that I heard the Lord’s audible voice say to me, “The Gospel is for everyone but your business is only those whom I have assigned for you to serve. 

It was then that I had to purchase books on business and attend webinars, workshops and trainings to get educated on how to find my target audience, identify my niche and stand out in a crowded market.

Know that what you have no matter how great it is, someone will reject it. That’s okay, because it was not intended for everyone.

3. I hadn’t deal with my rejection issues- One thing I learned early on was that if I wanted to thrive as a business woman I had to first be healthy as a WOMAN.

What no one tells you when you decide to go into business is to first: GET YOURSELF TOGETHER!

Before you can try to help everybody else you must first deal with your own demons, fears and issues because if not the first time someone says, “No thanks,” and you have unattended wounds of rejection you’ll take it personal and could possible shut down your entire operation because of one person.

Even with your personal finances; however you are with your personal finances is the exact same way you’ll be in your business. Get a hold of your personal funds and you will properly handle your company’s funds.

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Overcoming Traumatic Experiences

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Trauma can be defined as an emotional upset, or a disordered psychic or behavioral state resulting from severe mental or emotional stress or physical injury.

Growing up I experienced a traumatic childhood which led to me having severe nightmares in which certain scenes replayed in my psychological mind as well as issues that led into my adulthood. I had issues with trusting people as well as loving myself.

It wasn’t until I was in my mid twenties that the nightmares stopped. However, as a woman soon to enter my mid thirties those traumatic experiences tend to creep up on me every now and then.

This happened recently when my Mom and I released our new book, Redeeming the Time. We hosted a live event Mother’s Day weekend in an effort to help bridge the gap between mothers and daughters worldwide.

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(My Mom & I on the Day of Our Book Release: May 12, 2018)

During the event as we discussed different scenarios from my childhood, I began to struggle in my seat and fight back tears because I literally began to feel the pain from those life changing moments I had experienced. WOW! It’s amazing how traumatic experiences that happened over twenty years ago can still trigger certain emotions.

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(Some of the attendees of Redeeming the Time Live Event & Book Release)

Growing up I remember feeling like I was crazy because I was put on medication, talked all the time and always got in trouble to the point I was forced to go talk with a therapist. I used to literally think something was wrong with me.

When I was eighteen years old I tried to terminate my life by taking a bottle of pills. Ironically I awakened to the worst headache ever! In the midst of it all none of what I have been through had the power to terminate my life; not even my own attempt.

Perhaps you are experiencing the pain from your childhood, a failed marriage, emotional or physical trauma of any sort. Be encouraged today knowing that you will live through all of this.

Writing this book with my Mom was the hardest out of all the (eight) books I’ve written. Why? Because I had to accept the fact that my Mom and I remember certain things differently and where it was traumatic for me a lot of those things she was able to “block out” of her memory. However, I have yet been able to do so. But that is the interesting thing about relationships, none are perfect but are necessary. You can’t just divorce your family; although some people try. I believe the Lord has given us the family we have for a reason; a purpose; to help birth out of us all He has placed within us.

After a fabulous event on Saturday, I was awakened at 4AM with an upset stomach and tears streaming down my face as I relived the trauma of my childhood when my mom was married to her second husband (who physically abused me.) I didn’t call anyone because I didn’t think anyone would understand and besides I was embarrassed because my Mom and I had literally just released this new book that was already helping many especially those who attended the event.

I admit, in those moments I cried out to God asking Him why did I have to do this? I remember the ache in my heart being so severe that I thought I was having a heart attack. I remember coaching myself through various breathing techniques.

In that moment I grew angry with my Mom all over again. I was confused as to what I was feeling and even questioned God, “Will this pain ever go away permanently?”  I began to regret hosting the event and writing the book. The cost was too severe. Having that conversation live was like someone had yanked the scab off my wounds.

After crying out to the Lord in prayer I learned that more healing was needed in my life as well as between my Mom and I. Often times as writers and even artists the words we write, or the pictures we paint are to bring personal healing into our lives first.

Being led to turn on the television, I came across the Unsung story of Marvin Sapp. He shared how each of his songs that hit the Billboard charts were all birthed out of tremendously painful experiences such as the lost of his father, his wife and beyond. He said he remembered telling God “I don’t know if I want another #1 record. It cost too much.”

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I too can relate to this because every book I’ve written have become a best seller (with my 1st book, The Power in Waiting & The Entrepreneur Blueprint being my TOP best-sellers) and cost me tremendously. Since 2013 I have been sharing different portions of my story in different books and now I am ready to shift into writing novels.

In an effort to experience deeper healing I created a character named Chelsea (whom I introduced in my book: Turbulence) whom I get to use to release all of the creativity I have bottled up inside. There are certain parts of my story that I don’t feel comfortable sharing however, the great thing about novels is you can write a “fictional” story that may include some of your life truths. How awesome is that?

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(In Florida on Vacation this past weekend)

Writing has always therapeutic for me although it’s not easy being transparent I always feel much better after I share especially after I receive feedback from others who have shared the same experiences as I have and my story encouraged them not to give up on life.

If you are going through a tough time remember this: The suffering of your present time isn’t worthy to be compared with the glory which shall be revealed in us. (Romans 8:18) Despite what it may currently feel like, know that all you are facing now is only temporary. Sure, you may be facing a tremendous mountain but remember you have the power to declare a thing and it shall be so! (Mark 11:23)

There is comfort in God’s presence as well as His word. Whatever you are in the midst of working on today I encourage you to FINISH! Sure, it may cause you great pain but God needs people in the earth who are willing to echo His voice in the Earth and in order to reign with God we must also be willing to suffer with Him. (II Timothy 2:12).

I encourage you to grab a copy of my Mom & I new book, Redeeming the Time which is guaranteed to provide a deeper outlook on the value of relationships not only between mother and daughter but monogamous and platonic connections as well.

No relationship is beyond repair and either we surrender to the healing process now or later; either way eventually we will have to deal with the hurt, pain, frustrations, disappointments, unforgiveness; and decide to forgive and work through our process. 

Click the link to purchase your copy: bit.ly/redeemingthetimebook!

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Why You Can’t Give Up Now

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Never allow what you’re going through to deter you from what God told you to do. One way that I remain encouraged is by studying the Word of God. If I listened to what others have said about me or allowed my mistakes to define me I would remain stuck and in bondage.

However, I choose to gain strength through my relationship with Christ and allow His word to reveal itself in my life. I encourage you to do the same. I know life happens and it gets tough but you are a lot tougher than you realize.

Where you are is not where you will always be and you must believe that and accept it as your truth. God has great plans for your life but you have to make a decision to trust and believe in Him and allow Him to direct your path.

For years I allowed my pain to lead me; but no more! I am now driven by the love of God and I trust His thoughts toward me. I encourage you to do the same.

You can not remain stuck where you are, too many are relying on your freedom to experience their’s God uses people and I encourage you to let Him use you to help someone else!

Scripture References: Proverbs 3:5-6|Isaiah 26:3|Jeremiah 17:7-8

What I Love the Most About Entrepreneurship

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One of the things I absolutely love the most about entrepreneurship is the freedom to implement creativity, determine how much money I want to make and set my own schedule!

Doesn’t that sound amazing? This year will make 7 years since I started my own business and I tell you, I wouldn’t trade it for anything in the world!

Now let’s break down the top 3 things I love the most about entrepreneurship:

(1) Implementing Creativity- As a Kingdom Entrepreneur you are able to be as creative as you want and there really are no boundaries. You determine what type of services you desire to provide to your clients and the fun thing about it is you can do it in your own way!

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The ways I implemented creativity into my business was through writing books, hosting live events, providing coaching & consulting services, speaking at other people’s events & starting my own publishing company.

I can recall in 2013 when my first shipment of books arrived at my door step! I almost fainted! It’s like I believed it could happen for me but then again I didn’t believe it could happen for me!

Then two years later I took it a step further and began to help others package their brilliance by teaching book writing and now I am hosting my third tour entitled, WRITE LIKE A BOSS! How awesome is that!

office 5Sure success leaves clues however, entrepreneurship enables you to insert your personality into your business. At the end of the day we all aren’t teaching anything different or new. What many are investing in is our process, and our relational skills. I know it may sound weird. But there is a reason why my clients choose to work with me rather than someone else and there is a reason why someone chooses to patronize your business rather than your competitor. The #1 key in business is building relationships.

Many tend to focus on selling to prospects rather than learning what is hurting their prospects. Once someone knows that you actually care about what keeps them up at night no amount of money will keep them from working with you!

(2) Setting My Own Pay: The thing that trips me out the most is (3) years ago I was afraid to walk away from my corporate job because I couldn’t wrap my head around how in the heck someone would actually pay me for helping them become better! DSC_0210

(Hosting my very own Women’s Empowerment event entitled, Girl You ROCK! in 2015)

Once I built up enough courage to actually quit and do my own thing full time it was then that I learned that there are tons of people who desire to learn how to do the things that come naturally to me!

So in setting my own pay here’s what I did:

I sat down and got rid of every expense that I did not need. I cancelled magazine subscriptions, Pandora and more.

Next, I totaled all of my bills and said ok I need “X” amount of revenue coming in each month; this is what I called my SURVIVAL budget.

I then took a walk into the future and asked myself: After you generate the necessary funds needed to reach your SURVIVAL budget what would your THRIVING budget be?

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A THRIVING budget is the amount of money you need to be comfortable in life on a day to day basis. This number is what keeps you motivated and on your grind as a Kingdom Entrepreneur.

Finally, I took my survival budget and began to create products that could help me generate the income needed and the first place I started was coaching. I started out charging $75/hour for one on one coaching sessions. I absolutely loved it but eventually working all day on my 9 to 5 and then spending (4) hours in the evening coaching four different clients for the duration of an hour each became old pretty quickly and I was burned out.

It wasn’t until later that I learned I could charge more and serve less clients; quality clients and continue to enjoy what I do and prevent having a mental or physical breakdown in the process.

I often hear entrepreneurs desiring to help everyone and anyone. This mindset will lead you in a downward spiral fast! Be specific on who you want to serve; seek out your tribe; locate your remnant and then create a value ladder on how you plan to “stair step” them into your business!

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(My Superstar Client, Lawanda Todd, holding her book Hey, Are You Listening? Published by Cannon Publishing. http://www.cannonpublishing.net)

Identifying your “why” is a great way to maintain momentum as you journey through the different transitions every entrepreneur has experienced at one time or another!

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(My 15 Year old daughter, Patience is my “WHY.”
Your “WHY” will keep you going when the going gets tough!)

(3) Creating My Own Schedule: Having the flexibility to do what I want to do when I want is the best feeling EVER! I knew towards the end of 2017 that I no longer wanted to work full days. Therefore, I prayed, strategized and then met with my Administrator and informed her that effective immediately I would only meet with clients Tues-Thurs between 9AM-1PM.

Mondays are my vision planning days and Fridays are my evaluation and preparation days. I use Mondays and Fridays to focus on my personal brand as a speaker, author and trainer.

Did I fear that I would lose clients because I was no longer available between 9am-5pm? Absolutely not! Want to know why? Say, “tell me girl tell me” (laughs)

Because I learned a secret… want to know? Lean in.. come a little closer…

YOUR REMNANT WILL MAKE THE NECESSARY SACRIFICES NEEDED TO WORK WITH YOU!

I have clients that meet with me on their lunch break, they rearrange their schedules to meet with Coach C (what they call me)

So from 2012 I started out working a 9 to 5 and I coached clients on my lunch break and at night after I got off work while raising my daughter in a single parent home. I did this for hmmm about 4 years.

Once I went full time I increased my prices and said no more working after 5pm.

Now fast forward to 6 1/2 years later and I no longer see clients after 1pm and only on Tues-Thurs.

What’s my point? Whatever you desire in life you must pursue it and be willing to make the necessary sacrifices in order to make your dream a reality. Whatever you want is within your reach but the question is HOW BAD DO YOU WANT IT?

***For more information on understanding how to develop a SURVIVAL and THRIVING budget as well as position yourself to exit your job, check out my online training course entitled, FIRE YOUR BOSS! Click here for more information:

http://carlacannon.com/fire-boss-self-study-program/

P.S. Catch me on my WRITE LIKE A BOSS Tour and consider bringing it to your city by becoming an ambassador!

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How I Overcame the Spirit of Offense & You Can Too

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In life there will come a time that something someone says (or doesn’t say) or do (or don’t do) will come across as offensive to you in regards to your standard or expectation of what you felt should have occurred in each specific incident.

Offense is defined as an annoyance or resentment brought about by a perceived insult to or disregard for oneself or one’s standards or principles.

After much evaluation and self-reflection I admit that I wasted much of my life mad at people who had no idea I was upset, or even confronting people who were clueless to my approach when sharing what they did that offended me.

In most cases I learned it was simply a matter of maturity. Sure, there will be things people will say or do that will rub us the wrong way but we can choose whether to overlook it or determine if it is serious enough to address.

In speaking of the spirit of offense, I like you have been on both sides of the spectrum. I’ve disconnected from people who I felt did not value me enough to change their behavior in relation how I felt they were or were not treating me. I also have had individuals who became offended if I did not reply to their text message or message they may have sent me on social media as quickly as they would have liked me to.

I know this sounds petty but so is the spirit of offense. Here is the number one thing that set me free: PEOPLE ARE PEOPLE. People are going to be people. People are going to mess up. People are going to disappoint; some intentionally and others unintentionally but either way at one time or another friction is going to occur.

My evaluation of this is that it isn’t about what others do or don’t do that’s the most important. What matters the most is how we choose to handle the situation before it leads to an offense or even further a fall out with a family or friend.

Here’s How I Overcame and You Can Too: 

  1. Understand we all are flawed.
  2. Be patient with people while sharing your expectation
  3. Never try to control people.
  4. Place people in the proper position. Perhaps you are trying to make someone a friend who does not possess the necessary qualities. Or trying to make someone a mate who simply can not bring to the table what you desire of them.
  5. Take everything to the Lord in prayer.
  6. Weigh the situation on the peace scale. Do you have peace about going to the person? Is it really that big of a deal? Or does it continue to reoccur and bother you and you feel disrespected.
  7. Learn to observe more than you speak. People will always show us exactly who they are and what they are capable of if we will pay attention.
  8. Ask God to purge your heart and strengthen you so that everything doesn’t bother you.
  9. Don’t keep it bottled up. Journal it and only have necessary conversations with those who matter the most. The girl who accidentally bumped you in the mall isn’t important enough for you to lose your cool publicly. However, someone whom you continue to bump heads with in business may be of importance for you to have a conversation.
  10. Learn how to communicate effectively- Often times we talk while failing to communicate. Listen closely with the intention to understand rather than to respond. Then choose your words wisely and avoid beginning conversations with “You.” Instead try “When you do ______, it makes me feel ___________.”

In following the above steps the spirit of offense will have no space in your life.

 

 

 

 

~Relationships 101 ~

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Today while at my desk working I began to reflect over previous friendships, partnerships and relationships in general. There have been some people that I’ve had to walk away from and some that have walked away from me.

In thinking of this I learned that we are the only ones who can determine who we allow into our intimate space and who we must re-position to the balcony. There have been some that were once in my inner circle that I had cut off due to immaturity and really not knowing how to face challenges in life therefore, instead of dealing with the issues I would run away from them instead. There have also been some that I disconnected from due to finally realizing some things and coming to terms with the fact that the relationship no longer served me.

There were some connections in which individuals have disconnected from me due to misunderstandings or whatever was considered a nonnegotiable in their life.

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Lastly, there have also been times when I have allowed people to stay in my life much longer than they should and I paid for it in the end.

The point I am trying to make is in everything you do give it your absolute best. Whether it be friendships, professional relationships and partnerships or dating relationships as well. Give it all you got! Don’t allow fear of them walking away or previous failures hold you captive from experiencing true love and the advantages the right partnerships can bring.

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Life has many things to teach us on a consistent basis if we would lend it our ear and listen with our soul rather than our heart. You see, your soul is where your mind, will and emotions live. The depths of who you and I are is found in how we think, operate and allow things to affect us.

Following your heart can oftentimes be misleading and will send you down paths you never intended to take. Be prayerful and cautious, not fearful and suspicious. It’s perfectly okay to guard your space and determine who you will allow to come in and who needs to exit stage left.

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No matter your decision remember you can’t make it in this life alone. Face your issues, as well as your fears, love people and give them permission to fail and make mistakes. The number one problem in relationships is we fail to communicate effectively. Sure, we are talking but are we speaking in a language that is foreign to the listener? Are we so concerned and wrapped up in our own needs that we neglect the needs of the person we are trying to convey a message to?

Search within and really evaluate your friendships, relationships and partnerships that have gone wrong. Then, accept the truth of whatever the common factors are and commit to becoming better in the necessary areas. Even people who walk away from us without a cause can teach us a lesson.

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Be sure to keep people in their proper places. Don’t lean too much on another human more than you do God. He’s jealous and He will shut it down if that’s what it takes to get your attention.

No matter how close we may walk with Holy Spirit we will all be disappointed in life, hurt people as well as be hurt by them. The growing factor is to learn how to shift and learn from things that have happened and refuse to allow your heart to turn cold toward others due to previous pains you have caused others as well as what they have caused you.

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Walk in love today, and remember to give your best to your friend, partner, family and loved ones while pouring your heart into all you do and trust God to protect you as you serve and allow others to serve you!

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How I Fired My Boss By the Age of 30 & YOU CAN TOO!

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Never in a million years would I have dreamed that I would be where I am today. You are reading the blog of a woman that many counted out; heck; I even counted myself out! You ever have so many people speaking against you to the point you start believing what they are saying about you?

Out of my mother’s two children, I was her problem child. I was always fighting, running away from home, stealing, partying, drinking, smoking; pretty much doing anything I thought I was big and bad enough to do. I also ended up pregnant at the age of 17 and should honestly have had AIDS by now due to the reckless life I was once living but by the grace of God I am still standing; alive, healthy and disease free (PRAISE BREAK)

I honestly didn’t care about my life. I was super disrespectful to my mom, was angry with my inconsistent Dad while spending much of my time trying to find him in the older guys I seemed to attract. One thing I’ve learned is that men can detect/smell a desperate, lonely and broken woman. But hey that’s an entire different blog I’ll have to write on a different day!

What does all of this have to do with me firing my boss by the age of 30? It was because of the things I had gone through that stirred up such a passion and desire to encourage others. It was out of my discouragement that I began to write a newsletter to empower others. Not knowing that newsletter would develop into a magazine which would evolve into a movement including me hosting annual conferences with women literally traveling all across the globe to attend.

Mind blowing right? It gets better…

None of this was intentional for me. I started with a fervent love for God and people and He did the rest. I know business experts want to focus on how to make money and all that but I say the reason why I am successful today is because money was the last of my focus. I was not focused on monetizing my message. I was focused on getting a message of hope out to the masses that later developed into books, training programs/courses, live and virtual events, my own consulting firm and publishing company.

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Holding my 1st book released in 2013: The Power in Waiting. Click here to grab your copy:
http://carlacannon.com/books/

In 2013 I wrote a book sharing a portion of my life and titled it, “The Power in Waiting: What Do You Do When What God SAID Doesn’t Line Up With What You See?” Within 24 hours this book (pictured above) became an international best seller and also led me to being recognized on the National Best Seller List for Black Christian Authors. I found myself in the same category as one of my favorite authors, Valorie Burton (Author of Successful Women Think Differently- one of my favs; you should definitely grab this book.)

Anyway, after publishing this book one thing led to another and then BAM I began to write more books but my passion began to evolve as I saw myself evolve personally as a woman who loves Jesus into a woman who became passionate about entrepreneurship. Which honestly shouldn’t be a surprise, my mom has ran and operated her own boutique for over 20 years.

office 4Holding my book, The Entrepreneur Blueprint. Grab your copy by clicking here:
http://carlacannon.com/books/

What next? I wrote another book and it became an international best seller! I wrote another one after that and it became an international best seller! And another one..and you get my point. BUT…guess what? All of this did not come without the following:

  1. Focus
  2. Dedication
  3. Clarity
  4. Resilience
  5. Commitment

What I didn’t share is that I spent 4 years building my business while working my 9 to 5. By the time I left my job I had already tripled my income BUT I left with only $250 in the bank. HOW? Because as soon as the money was  coming in I was spending it right back out on websites, hard copies of my magazine, flyers; etc. I was very particular about my brand and I spend a fortune developing it (yes it was worth it)

Now, here’s the good stuff. HOW DID I FIRE MY BOSS BY THE AGE OF 30.

By doing the following:

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  1. I was FOCUSED- I knew what I wanted and I worked hard to get it by any means necessary (legally both in the earth and Heaven- haha- seriously) I was a coach before I knew what coaching was. I was helping people strategize before I knew what a Breakthrough Strategist was. I simply did what came natural to me. I didn’t chase money, or what was popular. I did what was in my heart to do: help people.I coached clients on my lunch break.I conducted interviews with some of the leading influencers in the Gospel industry while on my lunch break; sitting in my car. (Such as Kiarra Sheard, Valorie Burton, Dr. Traci Lynn, Shirley Murdock, Sarah Jakes Roberts, Tasha Cobbs & more!)I did not make any excuses. I stopped listening to what folks in my neighborhood told me I couldn’t do and started focusing on what God had put in my heart to do! I drowned out the naysayers and became laser focused on what had now become my KINGDOM ASSIGNMENT which led to my birthing as a KINGDOM ENTREPRENEUR!
  2. I was DEDICATED– Instead of going to lunch with my gossiping co-workers I went to my car and did research on how to expand my brand and develop client attraction. I coached clients on my lunch break and responded to emails. If you are going to be successful in anything you must first be dedicated. Success takes time.
  3. I operated with CLARITY- Although I had no intention on learning how to establish a multi-million dollar company (in which I am my way to doing) I had clarity on what I was to be doing at that very moment. Often times we can focus so much on the future that we miss the opportunity to live in the moment and enjoy today. I remember reading a book by Joyce Meyer (another one of my favs & inspiration): Enjoying Where You Are While On the Way to Where You’re Going and within the pages of this book I learned that life isn’t about the destination but the journey.
  4. I was RESILIENT: A resilient man or woman is a dangerous individual because they have a predetermined mindset that nothing or no one will ever stop them. Despite my haters and naysayers I made a decision to keep pressing forward. I refused to allow my past or even current struggles to define me. As I experience turbulence I refused to quit. I studied the eagle and learned how it used the storm to lift it higher into the sky and it flew above it. I thought that was amazing. That’s what we have to do in the midst of pursuing purpose and our dream; allow the storms that rage in our lives to lift us higher. Never allow your storm to cause you to quit. It was designed to bring out the best in you; the best that you never realized was there that only the storm could have birthed. Once you learn how storms work for your benefit if you remain resilient you will become more thankful for them.
  5. I was COMMITTED to finishing what I had started. Nothing about entrepreneurship is convenient. There is never the right time to leave your job, or buy a house or new car because you never know what each day will bring. Your phone could be ringing off the hook and your email and Pay Pal blowing up one day or one week and complete silence take place the next week. In order to fire your boss and live the life of your dreams you must be committed and learn to marry the process. As long as there is breath in our bodies we will always be in the process of becoming. The day our purpose is fulfilled in the earth is the day we will breathe our last breathe. Be committed to doing what God has placed in your hands to do or better yet what you say you desire or feel called to do.

There is so much more I could share but I’ll leave these 5 principles with you and as you focus on them and begin to master them I’ll return to share 5 more principles with you more so in the area of business and what it takes to develop and maintain a profitable business.

If you desire to speak more one on one regarding your business ideas or to gain clarity regarding your life purpose or current assignment. I’d love to serve you. Click here to learn more about Trailblazer Coaching & sign up to schedule your one on one session with me today! CLICK HERE: http://carlacannon.com/trailblazer-1-on-1-coaching/

Enjoyed this blog? Comment below and let me know how it helped you.

10 Rules for Writing Like a BOSS

BOSSDo you desire to write a book but have no idea where to begin?

Or perhaps you are in the process of writing a book and find yourself stuck and not sure how to move the story along.

If you answered yes, to either of these questions your prayers have been answered and HELP has arrived!

Being an author of eight books I have learned some things along the way that I believe will be extremely beneficial to you.

Below are 10 Rules for Writing Like a BOSS!

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  1. Be Authentic – The #1 way to connect with your audience is to be YOU! People can spot a fake/phony from a mile away. Remain true to who you are by allowing your personality to be expressed through your writings which in turn will make your reader feel as if they are actually getting to know you.
  2. Be Strategic- Before you begin any project you should not only know WHAT you desire to do but HOW you desire to do it as well. In making it happen you must have a strategy to make your book a success. In doing so this may or may not include (a.) Hiring a coach or (b.) Working with a publishing company. I have seen countless numbers of people trying to do it on their own only to have a really cool story loss between the pages of a book that no one is buying.
  3. Be Specific- Before you begin writing it is essential that you know WHO you are writing to. Many tend to just write the intention of everyone reading their book. Truth is more books are sold when they are geared toward a particular group of people/audience. Also, always write as if you are speaking to one individuals although thousands within your target audience may actually read your book.
  4. Be Organized– One thing that plagues many aspiring authors is the lack of organization. All many of them is that they want to write a book, not really sure on what topic or what the overall purpose of the book is. Within my training course, Write the Book Already I share a step by step guide on how to write a best selling book in 7 days! It is the exact blueprint I have used with each one of my books. It helps me organize my thoughts and prevents me from being all over the place in my writings. You can learn more about this course by clicking here: http://carlacannon.com/write-book-already-writers-coaching-program/.
  5. Be Fully Present- I encourage all writers to schedule a time to write in an atmosphere that is conducive to bringing out their creativity. This environment should be free of noise, food and clutter. While in this space you want to ensure you are fully present mentally and physically. Also, I encourage you not to spend no more than (3) hours at a time writing because honestly after staring at a computer screen that long it is wise to give your eyes a break.
  6. Be Focused- Enter into your writing space with your blueprint (I share this within my training course; click above to learn more and own yours today), and know ahead of time how long you will be writing. Set your timer, remove your cell phone, house phone and turn off all notifications on your phone to minimize distractions. If your spouse and kids can’t seem to keep the noise down, try rising up early before everyone else does, or stay up late writing once they are all asleep. If all else fails take time and go to your local library to write and be sure to take your thumb drive with you and oh yeah, leave your cell phone in the car and set the timer on your watch to inform you when your time of writing is up.
  7. Beware- Be aware of the needs of your audience. When someone picks up a book, their #1 thought is, “What is this book going to do for me?”
    This is why I believe the top areas individuals look at when determining whether or not to purchase a book are: (1) Title & Subtitle (2) Colors (3) Table of Content and (4) Content on the back of the book. If they are not intrigued by all 4 of the above more than likely your book will be put back on the shelf. This is why you muse beware of your audience as well as intentional about getting your message out to the masses.
  8. Be Resilient– The moment you make a decision to write your book, expect everything that can go wrong to go wrong. This is simply a distraction. Anytime you are giving birth to purpose you must endure labor pains. You see, your manuscript is more than just words on paper; it is your baby and it will cost you to deliver it if you expect your message to impact the lives of others. I like to say it like this: If you expect a small number of people to be impacted by your work then expect small amounts of opposition. But if you desire the world to be impacted by your work expect tremendous experience. Greater the impact; greater the labor pains. The question is will you abort or go through with the delivery.
  9. Be Ready– Through Inspiring Hearts Coaching Institute I have taught, equipped and activated dozens of individuals into not only discovering their life purpose but also learning how to profit from it in the process. Within my institute I also teach, when you write a book you launch your business. Therefore, be ready to speak publicly regarding your work. If your work touches the lives of others trust me someone is going to want to book you as a speaker to have you come and share your story and key principles in front of a live audience. Writing is one thing; but speaking is a another skill that can be developed and nurtured this is why you must understand that when you write a book you launch your business!
  10. Be Honest– If you are going to share your story you must commit to being completely honest! I built my entire business off of sharing my life experiences; some funny while others were extremely painful. However, both enabled my audiences to connect with me and desire to work with me or invite me to speak on their platforms. This rule is congruent with Rule #1: Be Authentic.

If you found the above tips to be helpful I’d love to hear from you, simply comment below and share with me what point resonated with you the most!

Also, this Friday, my new book: TURBULENCE: A Practical Guide on How to Remain Resilient in the Midst of Every Storm will be available at Amazon.com!

If you desire to write a book and are seeking a publishing company where you can maintain ownership of your work and receive 100% profit, visit http://www.cannonpublishing.net!

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5 Ways to Dream with Your Eyes Wide Open

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One of the keys to successful living is to be purposeful, intentional and focused on what it is you say you truly want.

In a current virtual training entitled, 13 Days of Power I share 5 Ways to Dream with Your Eyes Wide Open. So many are finding themselves living depressed and unfulfilled lives but I am a fervent believer that we have more control than we give ourselves credit for.

Sure, we may not be able to control what happens to us but we can partake and be responsible for what happens in us. In the midst of hurt we can choose not to be offended. In the midst of divorce/transition we can choose not to be bitter. In the midst of a job layoff we can choose not to be depressed but instead tap into a new level of creativity and turn the current obstacle into an opportunity.

Below are 5 ways you can position yourself to live the life of your dreams:

1. Surround yourself with people who are where you desire to be- Instead of being intimidated be inspired.

2. Change your routine- Study what successful people do: Wake up early, workout, be strategic, guard your time

3. Revisit your vision often- This will keep you motivated, inspired & activated (as well as moving forward)

4. Get a mentor- It is impossible to change your life without a spiritual midwife

5. Create declarations for where you desire to be-Write them in present tense and read them aloud daily.

Join me tomorrow for Day 4 for 13 Days of POWER on Periscope @CarlaRCannon!

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